Am I right to be hesitant about adding this guy from a dating app on social media?

[Anonymous]

We haven’t really talked much, I told him I’m not on the app often. He then gives me his #, I ask if he’s on social media bc I’d prefer to share my # at a later time. He says he’s only on Facebook, gives his name & when I look him up, he only has pics of he and a little boy (guessing his kid). But he doesn’t have on his dating app profile he has kids BUT he has a pic of he & the kid on his profile. Plus I don’t feel safe adding on FB either, that has my name & my family is on there etc

Yes

No

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UPDATE AFTER I didn't REPLY TO HIS LAST message WITH NAME TO LOOK HIM UP ON FB HE UNMATCHES W ME ON DATING APP

[BigWhiteWolf87]

He offers you his phone number which EVERYONE KNOWS has NO IDENTIFIYING information assoicated with it. Most people want # sooner, you want it later.

You instead ask for his social media which EVERYONE KNOWS has IDENTIFYING information assoicated with it. Most people want this later, you want it sooner.

You don't want to connect on social media because of identifying info. But you also don't want to use cell phone for who knows what reason.

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You don't think that intelligently or very far ahead, do you?
Obvious by the fact you can't ask him who is the kid - people have nephews, etc.

Or are you some sort of troll?
I mean your logics is non logical to the extreme.

[WaterIsland]

You are fine to be hesitant. But you did ask for his social media instead of phone number. Then he provided it to you, then you’re still hesitant? I think you need to make up your mind a bit. Or just be ok with checking the app more frequently until you get to know each other more.


I’m hesitant about giving personal info out soon too. But I also make it a priority to check those apps frequently if I’m talking to someone. Or enable notifications.


If you aren’t comfortable with phone number, Facebook, and you don’t check the app. What do you want him to do? Gotta answer that question and stick with it.

[Asker]

I was hoping he’d have IG or SC, isn’t it fishy about the kid?

[WaterIsland]

Ahh. Maybe just follow up and say you were hoping to talk over Instagram or Snapchat. That is totally fair in my opinion.

As for the kid. It could be any number of things. His nephew. Another family member. Or he could have a child. The fact that you haven’t talked much, maybe he just hasn’t opened up to you about that yet.

[Guy13]

yeah, I would be cautious too. If it was a woman, I would wait a little bit.

[Wise4myage]

No, he sounds desperate.