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Me and my ex boyfriend of 4 years broke up 2 weeks ago and we had no contact ever since
It was a heated argument and we broke up
We lived together so we see each other everyday
Both of us never cheated on each other


Today, he sent my mother a long message saying:
- I cheated on him and lied to him
- I talk crap about him to everyone
- I fight with him everyday so I never loved him
- he doesn't want my mum to tell me about this message
- and he doesn't care about me
- he doesn't want anything to do with me
Etc

Why is he badmouthing me to my mother?
Why is he even messaging her in the first place?

As a kid I did everyday, however, during my teen years I did not at all. When I started university I started to again and as an adult everyday. To me personally it gives it that clean room feel even when it's a little untidy in my opinion.

• Both are awful (obviously) but my friend refuses to acknowledge what I feel is the worse scenario and I need unbiased opinions to show perspective. Thanks!

This has been the hardest for me and it makes me frequently consider checking in to a hospital. It just feels like I’m dying in my chest and stomach when I set up a specific plan based on each year and when I’m going to do each thing and it does not go this way

He's following this woman, but she's not following him. She's not a Instagram model or anything so she doesn't have a ton of followers. She consistently posts pictures of herself in her bikinis or in revealing clothes. These pictures are usually quite obviously focused on her butt, and they have captions which are purposely trying to illustrate that (for example, "suns out, buns out"). I don't have a problem with her personally (I don't know her) but it seems weird that my boyfriend likes all her photos when they are specifically focused on appearing sexual...

I would care less if she had TONS of followers (and therefore couldn't see my boyfriend's likes as clearly), but the fact that she only has a couple hundred makes me think she's seeing his likes and he wants her to see them.

Should I be concerned?

Assume it's a guy who you are NOT in a relationship with - i. e. a classmate, coworker, brother, cousin, uncle, etc...

What do you like or not like about them?

1 🤔 while you were single, were you still having sex?

2 OK sooo I do have friends with which there is a mutual attraction but where neither of us see a relationship working out and sometimes we “spend time together.”

1 So would you let me know if you were still “spending time together” if I decided I was ready to date (in future)

2 wouldn’t be “spending time together”

with them if You told me you wanted to date me.🙂

🤨 Well, what if I (in future) decided to date but I am not “ready to spend time together” ?

(SEX y’all we mean sex. In case anyone didn’t catch it. “Spending time together” was the euphemism P 1 originally used for banging his friends, & I was repeating for consistency)

2 If I have a reason to wait, I can wait. But we don’t really have to worry about that at this point.

1 🤨🧐😐 Wait so then why did you go through all that stuff in the first place about how you hope you can marry while your grandparents are still here. You seem fairly casual so I don’t see why you felt the need to mention it. I wouldn’t have even been concerned about any of this 🤦🏻‍♀️

2 Well honestly they are relatively young so they have time. And while I really mean it I also do not believe in forcing things… So I am hopeful but careful.

1 Ok

2 Ok

2 … So… what now 😐

1 I don't know 🤷🏻‍♀️ 👀

(Quiet for a long time)

2 Are you ready to go home? I will walk you. You are welcome to stay but it’s a bit late. I know you get up early af)

(So he walks me 🏡 I was quiet during)

2 OK so no kiss but Can I hug you😁?

1 hmm OK. maybe. ok NO. OK. 🤔

2 Are you sure? 👀

1 I think so? I don't know. nvm. Well, Uhh — maybe next time. Sorry not feeling it atm. 🤦🏻‍♀️

2 It’s OK. 😌

(He buttoned my top coat buttons which was a bit weird 👀 but I guess it’s something to do I don't know)

2 You will be at your tree 🌲 tomorrow?

1 Yeah… 🤷🏻‍♀️

2 See you on my way to work. You can tell me If you want to hang out / when you want to, yeah?

So we said good night. 🌚

This is the second time I got kicked out of a writers group for using too many big words and making uneducated people feel dumb. I've been kicked out of two groups so far for using big words. I don't use big words on this site but I've poised as educated doctors before by writing my own health profile and signing it with a doctors name, the professionals who read my profile did not know the difference.

I’m confused right now.