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My ex/best friend sees it different from a soulmate and I agree. He said it can be platonic. But it's basically the other half of your own soul while a soulmate is separate from your own soul. They are just in your soul family.

We both were and still are under the influence (I'm high and he is drunk) though so this may not make much sense lol

But he doesn't believe in soulmates but believes in twin flames. And I think I do too. I think we are twin flames because we think so much alike now. It's insane.

Here's the Google definition-

A twin flame is a spiritual concept for an intense soul connection with someone seen as your "mirror soul" or "other half," originating from one soul split into two bodies; these relationships are characterized by profound recognition, deep mirroring of strengths and weaknesses, and are meant to trigger significant spiritual growth and healing through challenging experiences, acting as catalysts for personal evolution rather than necessarily being a traditional lifelong romance.

See, to start our exquisite dinner, we have a wonderful buffet of Spam flavors to choose from! From turkey to jalapeno to maple. And oh, so much more! Oh, all the yummy choices! I can hardly decide!
And then for desert we can have scrumptious Spam Oreos! Oh, Does life get any better? Oh, yes it does! We can then wash it all down with a delightful Spam cocktail! Oh rapture and joy! But wait there's even more! After our delightful feast we can use soothing Spam chap stick to ease our chappedness. This is joy known only by the Gods! Oh, life is good.

Some may say, "Random, the only spam around here is your inane posting."

So, anyways, I ask todays flavorful question, Which Spam is your favorite?

I stopped going to the gym and have been eating a lot of ice cream. 😧😬💀 Is it horrible?

And no I’m not trying to glorify unhealthy lifestyle or to make fat acceptable etc.

I know it’s not good and I don’t plan to stay this way. I also don’t get offended.

I just want a sense of reality if people actually find me attractive how I look now or mostly not at all. Really am just curious. How difficult is it to find a partner looking how I look now.

I'm preaching to the choir when I say that life is difficult. We think that what other people have is better than what we have. This sort of thinking messes with our lives.

My next point is I'm in college. The ring before spring culture is insane. I see couples everywhere and yet I realize that I may not see as many couples as I think I see. What I mean by that is there are factors I don't see (where they are in the relationship). It seems better to be in a relationship because of the perceived validation, touch, and company. It takes a lot of adaptation to stay a couple.

Couples need to think about the future. There is the money aspect of buying a house and having kids. Other aspects are the partner's habits to maneuver, feelings to be honest about. If one is not honest about them (bottling them thus keeping them a secret) they won't get along very well. That is the price of creating a harmonious lifestyle. Habits and feelings are not bad they are a part of you; they will be a part of the kids as well.

I would say dating and marriage is an extension of school. While this will be an unpopular opinion, I will explain my reasoning. Anytime, I explain my reasoning I'd rather exercise my thinking than convince you. Dating and Marriage is not fully like school; it doesn't have math, literature and science in that order. School is heavy on the subjects, light on the fun. Dating and marriage is lighter on the subjects. The subjects are needed to keep the boat. Analogy: fun things keep the boat floating. Each semester I'm in college took adaptability to succeed in my courses. Every course is different, so is each person.

Decision-making for dating and marriage has to be unified. I am not saying that couples need to order the same thing at restaurants. I'm saying scheduling vacation times, which school the kid is going to, who's the nanny. Cemented stuff like that.

I watched a couple of videos on YouTube and as a curious young woman I found a coupla comments which makes me question everything. I witnessed a female commentator arguing with a male commenter but I chose not to add fuel to the fire therefore leaving them alone. Is it true nerdy good girls who are average looking and has a kind heart not able to get more potential mates compared to a party girl who’s conventionally pretty but has unrealistic standards. She explicitly state men can have standards when it comes to women but when women have standards she called a gold digger, etc. Then he fought back ‘women like you said men’s height are a requirement but when we want women who are not fat y’all get mad.’ As for me I noticed there are some nerdy good girls able to get quality men who don’t care about looks. I keep my standards realistic and when it comes to height I prefer a guy to be around 2cm taller than me rather than 6-7 feet tall. He doesn’t need to be rich and he doesn’t need to be super hot. Thing is I’m afraid of meeting new people and avoid every volunteer and public meeting spaces hence why I’m still single because I’m too scared to have more friends. They say the only way to get a romantic partner is to meet new people but I refuse to do that hence why I’m single because I find single is easier and I hate changing my routines.

Honestly is it true women can’t have standards whereas men can have standards in society or am I wrong?