Polls

*OLD= Online Dating*

For context, I matched with someone from a dating app around May this yr. We spoke for a few weeks & he proposed meeting up but the times he kept bringing up weren’t working for me. He ends up reaching out again when he was back from traveling & tried to schedule something, I didn’t follow through. At the time, I was overwhelmed with a new job & just not in the best headspace to meet up with anyone in person from OLD. About a month ago, I felt like I should’ve given him a shot & then sent him a well thought message asking if he would give me another “redo”. He never replied so I thought he wasn’t interested, flash fwd to this week & we end up matching on another app I just installed.

He reaches out saying he remembered me & I told him that I tried reaching out to him around a month ago. He said he didn’t know because he hasn’t checked that other app in a while and said he was sorry for leaving me hanging, asking if I’m willing to give him another redo and then brought up that we live close by based on the app. Tbh if I was him, I don’t think I would’ve given me another shot. I know we’re strangers & there shouldn’t be too much stock placed on randos from OLD apps but I would’ve been sus, thinking this person only wants to talk to me b/c it didn’t work out w/ someone else etc.

Am I too critical or anyone else get where I’m coming from? Again I’m not trying to seem like I get too attached but I try to be wary, since we all know OLD apps can be sketchy.

Brad & I started long-distance dating through an online app in Nov 2023. We met in person in Feb. I managed to move closer to his city because of school from March-June, so once I came, we began living together & he proposed to me in May. A school situation happened where I got dismissed, so my sister came to move me back home in June. My family didn't like him during his visit since he was focused on taking me back to his home & not caring about my mom needing me/my school situation. I decided to stay with family & Brad disliked that since he hoped I'd leave that day. He left & gave me a hard time about my decision since then. My mom said she planned a Sept party where I could move back in with him more honorably than if I had just left. Brad didn't want to do it, but I did. We waited until Sept & then I found out my mom lied. I fought with her, she apologized, & now booked the venue in Nov by showing me confirmation. She told his parents so they could see if she would keep her word. Brad distrusts her & said if I didn't leave my home by the end of the month, then he'd end the relationship. I told him if my mom started to do anything fishy before Nov, I'd leave, but it didn't make sense to end the relationship over this, especially since I planned to visit. He sent me a goodbye/breakup texts the past week & fighting with me about this party. I told him that if he meant what he said about ending things, then he needs to stop communicating with me unless he decides that he's willing to do the party for my sake in Nov. He said he didn't want to wait that long, but I don't know if he'll change his mind. I texted him a couple of texts since me saying "don't talk to me", but he hasn't responded. I saw him following another girl on social media too, reached out to her, but she didn't respond to me. Do you think he's taking time to think & will reply soon? Or do you think he'll leave me? Why did he still text me even though he claims he ended things a long time ago?

I am not sure if I am using this word correctly. When I say ambivalent, I mean that they kind of evoke contradictory thoughts within you about them to them point of almost being uncertain what to make of them as a person.
Anyway, has it ever happened to you?
Feel free to elaborate, or ignore this, or just vote on the poll. Thanks