Polls: Relationships

My boyfriend of 3 years got upset because of something I said. He proceeded to call me a fat “c”, fat b$&ch, stupid b$&ch… among other things.

We were having a discussion about electric cars and gas prices. I said that we need to rely less on petroleum and I thought the government should increase the tax credit so that electric cars would be more affordable for the regular person.

He said why should I have yo pay for someone else yo have an electric car?

I responded “My taxes go towards a lot of wars that I don’t support so I think this should be considered the same. There are many things that I pay for that I don’t support. The good this will create outweighs the people who don’t want clean cars.”

He served our country as a Marine and he proceeded to tell me that I was an ungrateful “C” and all the other insults. I listened quietly during his rant. He kept hanging up on me and then calling me back to insult me some more. I was very calm and I remember only saying “tell me more of how you feel about me.” I didn’t insult him back because honestly I don’t insult people I love, it’s not my personality. Then on his last call I was silent and when he was done he said “Do you have something you want to say to me” or “what do you have to say” something like that I was really upset but I didn’t react at all. My voice was steady and the only thing I said was - this is it for us. Then he started yelling again and insulting me some more.

Wondering what everyone thinks about this. Was this my fault? Was his reaction warranted? I honestly don’t think I could ever “be” with him after he called me a fat “C”, and honestly I’m more offended he kept calling me fat than the C word, but I keep thinking who would say these things to a person they love? I wouldn’t.

Me personally I think height does not matter. But for some of my friends/ people they think height is important.
I just want to know how much people think height is important in a relationship or if it's not.

A friend of mine told my crush that I like him a couple of months ago. She thought she will be doing a really good thing although at the time I was not interested in pursuing anything with him. I told him that I had no intentions to follow up on this crush and that I did not ask my friend to intervene. He said he is comfortable with us beeing friends and that he likes it the way it is. He also has a lot of projects in front of him that require his whole attention. I don't even think he is looking for a girlfriend. I am sure though that physical atttaction is not the problem. I think he does find me attractive, at least a little bit. For a while we did not see each other because of outer circumstances but lately he reached out to me. We have ongoing conversations on the phone now and he has been opening up about his inner life quite a bit. He trusts me and talks to me about his problems and worries. I am a good listener and I like to be there for people I care about and also I feel I understand him really well. Do you think, that a guy can develop feelings of romantic attraction also based on that comforting and supportive connection? I like it the way it is now and I don't mind if it stays like this and my crush feelings are also not so strong anymore. But on the other hand it would be nice... What are your experiences with female friends? Did you develeop feelings based on a caring supportive nature?

If you're 5-6 months in your relationship and neither of you had any major argument (no yelling matches nor anyone feeling unheard) nor unwanted drama then is likely that relationship will flourish and progress?
Is that how a relationship that's likely to progress than get stuck or end in a break-up looks like?

Note: Both families (the woman's and man's parents) like the partner since day 1. They approve the relationship.
Secondly the woman isn't the nagging type either and finds yelling in a relationship and throwing insults very rude.