Polls: Relationships

I’m just wondering and would like to see the consensus here given insults can be seen as abusive in a relationship but cheating is also insulting to the partner who was cheated on.

Is it not okay at all? Is there room for context here, I would assume it is somewhat acceptable because it causes lots of confusion and sporadic feelings and especially when its fresh, is it more acceptable if your married, is it more acceptable when you find out years later, is it more acceptable if you find out through rumours, is it more acceptable if you found out in person, is it more acceptable if they told you to leave so they could finish and came back the next day asking for you back, is it more acceptable if you have a family together, is it acceptable if you keep finding out more secrets (maybe it’s been happening from the start, maybe it’s the person who popped there cherry, maybe it’s your best friend, maybe they got pregnant etc.)? If you think it’s okay, is there a time limit to stop hurling the insults, is trauma an acceptable excuse to continually do it or should there be a set grace period where said parter is allowed to blow there feelings up after being cheated on.

Sorry, messy question but I really wanna know what both men and women think about this and I don’t condone abuse, physical, emotional, sexual or physiological but I really wanted to ask this question. . how different the opinion here is and the general consensus if insults or the word “Whore” should ever be given to a cheating partner if you stay together. Please comment and give me you opinion and thank you very much!!

I had a relationship with this girl years ago when I was a teenager. I liked this girl a lot but I never got chance to tell her how I felt about her before it was too late. She said she wanted to end our relationship and that we could be friends, she never gave me a reason why even though I asked. I think she mistook my affection for ‘needyness’ which must’ve killed her attraction for me or maybe it was because I was shit at sex as I was only young at the time and inexperienced, however this is only speculation as she never actually told me this. As I said many years have passed since I last spoke to her, I deleted her off all socials apart from Instagram because I simply didn’t want to see her name and what she was doing etc so do you think enough time has passed that I could message her again and maybe start a relationship again as it’s almost been 5 years. The only thing that’s stoping me is that I’m not as confident as I was 5 years ago and I don’t want that to kill my chances with her. However I’m more mature and humble now and I can still tap into that confidence it just depends on the situation, basically I’m not confident 24 7 like I was back then. Should I add her Snapchat again or find her number and message her? Im keeping my expectations low of course.