Polls: Relationships

I'm in a relationship. He's a great guy--intelligent, respectful, trusting, protecting, and determined. He has a great job. His internship pays him $14 an hour. My boyfriend likes to pay for my meals when we go out. I have a job too and make $10.20 an hour. *Note, I was with him BEFORE he worked at all, but our relationship was boring because I had to pay for him--which he didn't like, so we rarely went anywhere!!* Also, I had my current job when we met!!

I feel strange just accepting this free food. He told me not to feel like I owe him anything, when he pays. A few days ago I treated him out to Asian food. I just felt so awful since he paid for me about 4 times prior. Here is the catch... I paid for my own stuff BEFORE he got this job. Since I feel guilty and love him as a person, am I still a gold-digger? How do I stop feeling guilty when he spends money on me? HELP!

This is just a hypothetical question because I have recently seen takes from "cheat apologists" who have awknowledged their actions and are "sorry" for commiting them.

Do do you think a cheater who is geninely sorry for cheating deserves to carry that guilt with them for the rest of their lives, or do they deserve to be forgiven by the ones that they hurt and people close to them? Why or why not?

Do they deserve the satisfaction of being forgiven?

I hooked up with a guy 3 months ago and we texted a bit for like a week after, then i never hear back from him until now. I found his Instagram and it is not private. I want to follow him just so he can see my pics and remember me.
Should i go for it? What would he think about that?

He is great, but he has very little chivalry. (he is also in a wheelchair if that is relevant but im pretty sure even if he wasn't in a wheelchair things would be the same)
1. He asks me to come to his place and when I walk back to my place he doesn't offer to walk me back and never takes me to the bus stop.
2. When it's cold and he has a jacket but I don't, he doesn't even offer me his jacket.
3. He never gets worried when I walk back home at night from the library etc. no text, call, or asking if I got home safe etc.
4. We pay about an equal amount when we go out (this is fine except its been more like 60% me 40% him lately.)

Here are the things my boyfriend does for me that shows me that he loves me.

1. he used to never get his hair cut super short cause he doesn't like it that short, but ever since I told him I like short hair on men he gets buzz cuts before he sees me (we're doing long distance).

2. He's had facebook for about a decade and has never posted a picture of his face as a profiel picture and of course never had a girlfriend in his profiel picture. He changed his profile picture into one of us for the very first time.

3. He calls me every night and always makes time to talk to me if I need him.

4. introduces me to his friends and family.

5. He makes me his phone background.

6. He doesn't talk to other girls and never locks his phone. He lets me use it too lol

so the question is, should I end it with him? is he a bad boyfriend/ good boyfriend?

I have been dating a guy for 2 weeks and we meet for the 5th times today.

We like each other and think we matches. Today he asked if I want to start a relationship with him. But I am wondering if this is moving too fast?

How long or how many dates do it usually takes for you?

To be honest this is not cool. I would never date a guy who has a single bestfriend that's a girl? in this crazy generation... heck nooooo.
I would be a fool. I would hate to have to end up questioning him about his bestfriend sounding all insecure & i wouldn't want him feeling that he can't trust me. But come on really? What girl wouldn't feel some type of way? He says "Where just friends we been knowing each other forever crap" but in her mind she thinks different... she might be waiting for the right time to tell him she loves him... and try to break us up... most guys don't give a flying fuck I can be the side chick for all I know... and his so called bestfriend can be his wife... crazy shit like this happends. So much drama lol who wants go through that we live in a fucked up world where guys honestly don't give a fuck anymore... I'm starting to think all guys are the same but enough of my ranting Girls guys... what do you think?

Please explain your answer. Please be respectful in your answers and responses!

I thought this was all in the past century. Men liking physically weaker, delicate and "woman-ly" (if that's even a thing) women. But this guy told me that he is in love with my femininity. I dont think im weak or fragile (i know being feminine does not mean weak but that was the only thing that came to my mind when he said it, i still dont know what he meant by femininity)
he confessed that even when i asked for his help a couple days ago in opening a damn jar, it aroused him. Is it possible to be turned on by something this subtle?