Let say your married to your wife/husband but they've always felt they identified as a member of the opposite sex more. They decide to go on hormone replacement therapy and change their sex. Now their sexual attraction hasn't changed, they just want to change genders. Would you still stick with them or leave them?
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Would you stick with your SO if they decided to change genders?
I couldn't do it. But I will share a story of a good friend of mine.
His name was Kevin, and one day after years of friendship, he just sort of vanished. I would get an occasional email checking in, but that was it. Two years passed and one day he told me he and his wife wanted to catch up, so plans were made and I went.
Kevin was now Karen. It was not a complete gender reassignment. Everything but genital reconfiguration. The marriage was completely intact, they were still happily married. It was nearly 30 years at that point. A year or so later Karen went the rest of the way. The marriage is still intact and they are still as close and happy as ever. So, I know it CAN work. The reassignment is not always what people think, which is that it is based in homosexuality. Gender ID does not always go hand in hand with sexual preference.
There are certain things that are never understood but are nonetheless implicit in agreements and understandings, like. . . I'll never commit a crime that causes me to spend years in prison, leaving you alone, or. . . I'll never grow boobs and get my B&D whacked off!
Nope. Absolutely not. I'm heterosexual and I am not about to try and bend my sexuality when I sought out a male partner, and then married a male partner. If this was something they were struggling with they should have been honest with me from the beginning so I could make the decision to be with them beforehand instead of hoping I'd be cool with it if they wanted to act on it.
I'd always be there for them, mind you, and love them, but I couldn't be with a man who transitioned into a woman. Because I'm not into women, trans or not.
He lied to me my whole life and then I'm supposed to accept I've been living a lie+accept his current state as if I always wanted to date women - and I signed the papers with a man.
Please... He can get the hell out of my life and never return!
Those kinds of people should just live their lives in their truth - and not try to deceive others and ruin their lives just because they feel safer living the 'normal life' they don't actually want.
I agree. I also feel that it's like they included me in their lie and made our relationship (and, therefore, my life) a lie as well. That's not a good feeling by any means.
I would definitely stay as a friend. I can't believe there are so many people that wouldn't. You are supposed to love this person for better or for worse, how can you throw away such love? I suggest the movie "the Danish girl" it was very moving.
i don't really see how i could. i married a woman. if the woman i married wanted to be a man i don't really see how i could stay with them. i'd probably remain friends if it was possible but can't really see how i could stay married to them. i wouldn't want to sleep with them, have sex with them, etc
I'd leave not cause of what most people on here would say if they said no which is due to their religious belief's, but because if you look at the health problems that trans-gendered people get and have. Not to mention I just don't get the whole point of switching genders if you don't even get the full effects of that gender you switch too. What's the point of changing into a women if you can't have your period, you can't get pregnant, you gotta get basically fake everything as well. Or if you want to switch to becoming a man you when you won't even be able to shoot out sperm. Its unhealthy too cause of all those injections they have to take which their body won't be able to handle cause men aren't supposed to produce a lot of estrogen or progesterone or whatever, they get a lot of negative symptoms from it. Women aren't supposed to produce so much testosterone.
Leave them. I am attracted to men and men only. I didn't marry a guy for him to change into a woman. If that was the case, I would of married a woman. I may love the person but I would not stay with him. This changes a lot in a relationship esp the sex. Nope.
Honestly, I would stay with them. They're pretty much still the same person, and I've known my boyfriend for a large portion of my life. I could never give him up for something like this. Besides, I'm on the ace spectrum and more of a romantic, I guess you can say. I don't think it'd be a major problem at all.
I'm bi.. poly.. whatever you want to call it, so no I wouldn't have a problem with it. And honestly, this might be super stereotypically bi of me to say but love is love. If you love the person enough to exchange wedding vows, how is something as miniscule as gender going to change the way you feel.
I would take him shopping and stuff... but I would divorce him because I will not have a wife. We could be friends but we would not be spouses. I would discontinue all romantic gestures and acts. Maybe we could be roommates. But not spouses.
If my boyfriend all of sudden wanted to be a woman... I would leave him. For one thing... I am not a lesbian. But my boyfriend would never do that... than God.
Omg im not judgmental or i dont dislike trans people so i could be a friend with them help them out etc but sorry i just couldnt stay with one even if i loved them and i would be heartbroken if they got abuse etc so its a hard one... hope this doesn't sound bad
I'd stay, i wouldn't mind, i'd try to help them. I've done it myself so i'd give as many pointers as i can. I just would put down the rule they are not allowed to touch my hormones or try to use it for themself.
As friends? Yes ofcourse, surely it would take some getting used to, but yes as good friends ofcourse! As lovers? No, i don't think i could change my preference for men just because my (former) lover wants to be who they always wanted to be!
Only if I had no family, really low self esteem, if I was disabled maybe if I had no where to go but since none of these things are wrong I'm leaving that person
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I would stay. If my partner decided to be a woman then that's fine but I would beg him to consider waiting until our kids are older but I'd be by his or her side no matter what. He's my soulmate so... she would be too.
"I would give you the stars in the sky But they're too far away If you were a hooker, you'd know I'd be happy to pay If suddenly you were a guy I'd be suddenly gay"
No way on this green earth. I wouldn't even stay friends. I'd be bitter af.
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Nope they have got to go I'm not about to eat some pussy while they're at it. They should have been honest with me in the first place. I'm straight af I just can't.
Ewwww wth, I even hate to see a shirtless male body why would I want to try and have sex with a man! Male body is creepy as fuck That's why I ask you what's there in male body and sex with a man?
I would still care for them, and be their great friend, but I couldn't live with them anymore. I'm too hetero. I'd need to find another woman for a partner.
i would have a hard time staying but i'd try my best to help
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I'd leave. Not because of the change itself but because if they've felt like this all along and I'm only just finding out now our relationship clearly wasn't what I thought it was
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