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"Men constantly have to be on. Not only were my initial messages to girls necessarily concise and witty with a healthy dose of denigration, but every succeeding message has to be interesting even if – as in most cases – the girl gives u a minimal level of conversational material to work with. It also has to be sensitive to her mood and the changing tone and course of the interaction. As my friend put it, the messaging process goes something like:

Probe –> Response –> Calibrate –> Flirt –> Calibrate –> Exchange numbers

The hardest part is constantly having to be interesting else u fuck it up.

Observation:
1) Women are fickle. Even if a sequence of messages seems to be going really well, a woman will arbitrarily change her mind at any given point if u did not re-calibrate effectively, or her competing options are disqualifying you as a sexual candidate. This trait in particular made me really sympathetic to the hoops men have to jump through when acquiring a girl’s attention, even though most women have nothing to offer.

2) Women are boring and have very high estimations of themselves The difference is the self-evaluation. Most men undervalue themselves online and most women overvalue themselves. I understand this is a natural consequence of the sexual marketplace, but after you read the literally hundredth, carefully worded profile of a girl touting her intellectual strengths and esoteric pop culture references, it gets EXCRUCIATINGLY boring. The annoying part is that she thinks she’s being really unique.

I can see how having to be in this frame of mind makes men cynical. I’ve heard men previously remark that they use male friends for intellectual stimulation and women for emotional companionship + sex. A high investment/low return interaction does make you perceive women as a monolithic category that don’t deserve much sincerity. I understand that is self-defeating to admit as a woman, but my male persona can’t help but experience it."

I told her online that I wanted a chance to take her out on a walk and asked for her number but she said she felt uncomfortable about it because she doesn't know me very well and that she's not interested in anything more than friendship atm. She also said she's happy to meet with me if there's other people involved too. She also said she's sorry if she gave me the wrong idea as she knows she can be a flirt sometimes. Since then I don't know if she's just been sympathetic but she's continued to act the way she did before towards me. Looking at me a lot, trying to talk to me a lot, being next to me a lot. She especially does all this if I try to distance myself from her. Sometimes she'll act shy around me like smile but avoid eye contact with me or look at me then look away in a shy, worried way. Her behaviour just really confuses me. It's like she's having an internal conflict herself about whether she likes me or not. I really like her so if there's tiny chance, I don't want to let it go. But at the same time, I don't want to annoy her or make her feel uncomfortable.

I often see questions like "guys come up to me all the time say I'm very ugly, is it true"? And with no surprise, it's a cute girl and I'm left there thinking "yeah fucking right, why would guys be mean to you for no reason". Then another question is like "guy said that my boobs are ugly", she posts a pic of like some nice perky boobs.

Like in what world do these scenarios happen repeatedly? I feel like they purposely word the questions that way to get a desired sympathetic answer, "no honey, you are not ugly, you are very pretty!!!"

Is it just me?