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If you said that you have never gotten angry at a partner, you've either never had a partner or it's a brand new experience for you. If you are in a relationship long enough to get past the honeymoon phase, you will experience conflicts and anger. It's inevitable. The test of a good relationship is not WHETHER you have conflicts but HOW you resolve them.

Sometimes, couples argue about silly things: "Why did you move the cheese?" or "Why do you always leave the lid up on the toilet?" That usually means there is a larger issue that is not being addressed and the anger is coming out "sideways" but sometimes, your partner may have just had a bad day at the office and the least little aggravation can set them off at home.

When arguments happen near bedtime, it isn't always possible to get it resolved before going to sleep. When I get in bed with my girlfriend and the harsh feelings are still on the surface, she will usually lie on her side, facing away from me. I move over so I am behind her, spooned with her, I put my arm around her, and I whisper in her ear, "Even when I'm angry, I still love you and I'm glad you're in my life. We'll get this resolved tomorrow morning, we'll still be in love with each other, and we'll have a better day. I love you. Goodnight."

The purpose of saying this is not to sweep the conflict under the rug. If it is a significant issue, it needs to be addressed. But I know that my girlfriend has a bit of insecurity and she panics when we have a conflict. She thinks that we are going to break up and she starts -internally - to freak out about being alone, moving out, etc. I want to put her fears to rest and make her feel better so she can go to sleep. Every time this happens, it helps her to feel more secure about us, and that makes me feel good.

Have you ever done this?

It seems to me that a lot of this dick insecurity stems from that fear that, once the relationship gets sexual, the guy may not fit the girl's preferences (or guy/guy, etc.) and may be uncomfortably big, small, thick or something. That'd be a hard thing to discover (ba dum tss) so far into a relationship.

As dicks aren't visible in profile pics, what if men just add the size information in the bio along with age, height, and other numbers that people think are important to mention?

I believe so, but a lot of guys who are shy on here try and say that it's not insecurity, but rather introversion. Being introverted means you are more reserved and recharge in solitude, rather than with the company of others, but that doesn't mean you're scared to talk or too timid. Introverts aren't pussies. Good friend I still have who I met in the Marine Corps has been in the infantry for 8 years now, and is introverted. Dude has been offing hajis and bad guys who look like sand while you're jerking off and playing call of duty. You shy fucks need to stop trying to hold that same title, but I do understand that shy and introversion aren't mutually exclusive. If you're too afraid to speak up and have a voice because you're timid and fear the opinions and judgement of others... then that means you're shy. That's directly associated with insecurity. Try and debate me on this. Let's go.