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Women on here of all ages are CONSTANTLY complaining about men's bad behavior, how they mistreat them, how they lie and abuse them. But it also seems that they STAY in these relationships far too long and then want to know "why is he treating me like this"?

Well here's an idea. Why don't women lay out the "rules of engagement" from the start and make it absolutely clear there will be NO SECOND CHANCES ! No amount of "I love you's", or gifts, or apologies, will grant you a reprieve.

Say this to your potential boyfriend (and I say this because it's true for ALL women... right: :)

I am totally honest. I will never lie to you. Lie to me once, you're gone forever.
I will never hit you, throw things at you, or embarrass you in public. Do any of those once, you're gone forever.
I am loyal and will NEVER cheat on you. That means I'll have sex only with you, passionately kiss only you, share "myself" only with you. Anything else is "cheating". I expect the same from you, which doesn't mean you can't have friends, as long as that's all they are. So... cheat on me once, you're gone forever.

Establish this from the start. If he agrees, trust him until you have reason not to and confront him only if you have reason to. Look him in the eyes and ask " are you breaking any of my rules" ? Watch his face. You'll know.

So if he HAS broken one of the rules, kick him out. No bullshit, no asking "why", no tolerance. He had his chance, and blew it. And then... STOP COMPLAINING !

The title says it all. Rather simple question, really. What I mean by it is not like in an actual relationship, but just as a general thing when meeting new people and making new friends.

To me, personally, it never mattered, for as long as I can remember, when I was like 3 in pre-school.

Somewhere in early elementary school there was some sort of separation in between boys and girls, about the "cooties" and stuff, but I never took part in it, or even thought about it. I was like, "What the fuck? This is just stupid. We are all human, that's all that matters." Excluding the word "fuck" as I was in elementary school, but you get what I mean, lol.

Throughout my life in general, I've also noticed that straight people often have trouble talking to the opposite sex/gender... which I personally never related to, unless it was a very specific girl I had a crush on. But developing a crush on someone in the first place was almost impossible to me, so most of the time I remained almost oblivious to sex/gender unless it was a certain situation that put emphasis on that.

So therefore, overall, I think of both males and females the same way, I treat them both the same way, and have about an equal amount of female and male friends.

I'm really quiet and mild tempered all the time, so though I treat males and females the same, it bothers no one. Some guys are overly rowdy to both sexes/genders, which may bother some girls... but I'm no rowdy guy.