Have you ever begin to wonder how healthy your relationship is with your significant other? No relationship is perfect, however it’s very well possible to maintain a healthy one where both of you are very happy and comfortable with each other! The time when the romantic spark is lit usually happens within the first year of the relationship but when it dies down, the real question you have to ask yourself as time progresses is: Am I in a relationship where I’m not just content or ok but actually feel really satisfied and happy with my significant other? If you’re not entirely sure where you stand in the relationship, try to find out what makes you happy on the inside! Below are a list of what I personally believe makes the healthiest and happiest relationships around! Feel free to provide feedback if you agree or disagree with any of the reasons.
1) Having Complete Trust in Them
One of the most crucial factors to consider in a relationship is the amount of trust you have in someone. If you know that you can trust your significant other under any circumstance no matter how troubling a situation may be, you’ll feel a lot better knowing you have no fear of either being backstabbed or lied to. If you are known to be a person with a history of being a compulsive lier, this is your opportunity to start your relationship anew and build up that trust again if you are in a relationship or start fresh if you adapting to a new relationship. Having to live in constant fear of worrying about your partner cheating on you or going behind your back is no way to live a healthy relationship. It’s very important to maintain that trust and once its broken, it’s really hard to get it back without time and good intentions to heal it back up. If you have insecurities about your significant other with trust issues, be open and communicate with them to find a solution on how to fix that problem so you both can still trust each other without any worries!
2) Communicate All Your Needs and Wants
The other very crucial element to a healthy relationship is to express yourself to your significant other about everything you feel from emotions to topics! When you’re not afraid to open your mind and speak freely without being judged or criticized, it’s a breath of fresh air knowing your significant other is open minded and supportive of you and your thoughts! We all have problems in our lives and being expressive about them will not only build trust in the relationship but it’s always nice to get a second opinion if you begin to question yourself about something. Having good communication isn’t all talking about concerns but it’s about finding subjects and topics to discuss about as well!
When you take time to understand your significant other in finding out what they like, their beliefs, their goals/dreams and such, they’ll appreciate you being interested in getting to know them better! Learning about your significant other in a relationship is always ongoing with learning something new about them all the time! Opening up to having conversations and even friendly debates will help you both in figuring out which subjects you both can relate to and which ones you both differentiate with. Always remember to communicate with your significant other on a daily basis, whether if you two are living together or living apart in a different place.
3) Physical Intimacy Brings Love to the Table
Having a lot in common and being communicative are all ways you can validate your love for each other but nothing says it stronger than physical intimacy! When you love someone very much and put your trust into them, it feels very natural that you’d want to physically flirt with them in the form of hugging, kissing, cuddling, back rubbing, holding hands and even sex! You’ll know if your significant other is making love to you because they love you for who you are as opposed to just using you for only their sexual desires. One of the biggest downfalls in a relationship is becoming too distant and/or fearing your significant other because of something they did. Nothing clears that up quicker than a productive conversation, following it up with physical intimacy to feel the love flow throughout your body again!
4) Having a Lot of Common Interests
Usually when people try to find someone for dating, they are looking for a person who shares a lot of similar interests in the form of hobbies and activities. The more interests you both have in common, the more diversity you have in trying out new activities and events together! Relationships can get stale really quickly if nothing new is added to the relationship and with all the possibilities that are available out there, the options are almost limitless! Try to collect up all of the things you both love most and figure out what you two could do together. Sometimes you may encounter a new experience that you’ve never dreamed of until you’ve considered all the possibilities. Being able to share hobbies and activities together is a great way to not only bond with each other but create new memories to share in a scrapbook or photo collection! Explore your options and see what you both like!
5) Spending Time Together
When you feel comfortable enough with your significant other, it’s very common that you’d want to spend good quality time with each other! Try to get involved in as many activities as you can together to make the experience a lot more fun and even romantic. There are obviously some things you two probably don’t want to do together like going to the bathroom using the same toilet for example. Doing activities together is also a great way to find out what you love both to do and what kind of lifestyle you both want. Maybe while you both are cooking, one prefers to chop and slice while the other sautés and grills! Perhaps one of you likes to vacuum and mop while the other prefers to fold laundry and dust! Showing you are invested in spending quality time with your significant other will surely make them feel important and loved all around!
6) Respecting Alone Time
A healthy relationship knows when to balance “together” time with “alone” time. A relationship can get very toxic if both partners spend too much time with each other and feel the need to take a break. This doesn’t mean you love each other any less; it just means your mind wants to either stimulate or relax with privacy and hanging out with other people for diversity. We all want to have our “alone” time to be ourselves to do things we really want alone when we otherwise may not be able to with our significant other around. Sometimes we just like to nerd out in something we couldn’t do extensively with our significant other as well! Remember to not invest too much time away from them or trust issues and the desire of feeling loved may become a problem in the future.
7) Be Sturdy and Strong Like a Statue
Having independence and a good level of confidence is considered a very attractive personality trait! Realize that no matter how dire a situation may get, that you both will be alright in the end of it and that you both have each other’s back. It’s common to run into obstacles in the relationship and knowing if you can handle them or not is a deal breaker here. When one of you collapses due to addiction, depression and such, it’s important to have the other pick them up and remind them that we all make mistakes with the two of you figuring out a solution together! Having a weak and cowardly personality will not only build up trust issues but also cause reckless actions to happen so be sure to have a clear head at all times whenever its possible.
Out of the 7 1/2 years of being in a relationship with my girlfriend, it taught me so much about what people want in a relationship! Far too often do people become unhappy in their relationship due to a lack of research, little/no communication or rushing in too quickly by impulse of emotions. I hope this guide proves to be helpful in your attempts for a very healthy relationship! Since this is my first MyTake, feel free to provide me feedback on what you liked about this and/or critic on what could be improved or added onto it. Thank you for taking the time to read this and I hope you have a wonderful day!