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I have made multiple multiple questions about this situation and I just want to put a final end on getting peoples opinions opinions on it. It will really help me.
- I have known this laid back guy for 1.5 years we met online
- at the beginning things were good, we were flirting/ making sexual jokes (I went along with it)
- I was hesitant to meet him because I thought he wanted sex, I lead him on for awhile when it came to meeting up
- he gave me multiple chances with giving things a try
- we have argued a lot through out
- on our first date, he paid, it was quiet, got to know him a bit, made out with him. After our first date his answers on how it went was vague.
- after our first date shortly after I found out he hooked up with a girl, he told me he thought I wasn't serious.
- he asked me randomly to be his girlfriend in the summer time and we kind of left it.
- we tried to give things a go and then I got cold feet.
- when we weren't talking and i was going out with a guy he messaged me asking how my "bf" was
- we talked a lot about our past and how he told me he wanted to be with me and that he liked me. I told him the same. He told me a couple times he wanted to move on but I wanted him to give me one last chance. Anyways we went on our second date, I paid, got no thank you. We had nothing in common. We did make things official before our second date. After our second date he said it was fun, but he felt nothing.. ( he did told me he was in the mood during our date) He then told me after that we just went on 2 dates, that I was weird etc..

So, I started chatting with a guy. Everything was going well we were getting a bit closer. We talked about sex a lot, more than I'd usually speak with someone I just started talking to. And then he disappeared. For more than a week. Just zero communication. Then he popped back up and I was very hesitant and he convinced me something was wrong with his phone and he had to have it fixed or something. So I said that's a red flag but continued chatting with him.

As he seemed to be interested in me I laid it out flat that there's a guy in my life who I had feelings for and I was trying to distance my feelings since I knew for sure that the guy liked me and wanted me but wasn't capable of loving me or us having a serious relationship (due to his next level work ethic). I told him I honestly don't know what would happen around that guy since my feelings seemed to destroy logic whenever we were in that position where I should say no and tell him to leave me alone. But improvements were happening though. He told me that was fine, he understood I was lonely blah blah blah. Then we started getting to know each other better and once while we were chatting he asked to see a pic of my undies... so I said no ofc. Then boom! Same thing happened again. Disappears for weeeeks.

He's back now and I just don't trust his motives. I always question if he's just being in-genuine. But he is a really nice guy, similar though patterns, and we have good chemistry. But I'm on the fence. The second time he said he left (basically ghosted me) because he was sad about how the other person I had feelings for was close to me and he was far away. The thing is, I have zero feelings for the person I was getting over now, and totally not lured by his charm anymore. But I still don't trust this disappear guy. Tell me your thoughts