I try to keep my distance from them. I try to warn them about my feelings being nothing more than physical attraction but they don’t seem to care. Matt continues saying that he doesn’t mind if I don’t love him back as soon as I let him love me and he continues getting deeper and deeper into this fantasy. Archie sorta knows that I’m quite detached and so he did date other people during the times when we were not on good terms but every time I happen to accidentally reel him back in by getting drunk and saying something I don’t mean or looking at him for a second too long. Bit of either and he just falls for it very quickly, going as far leaving his current girlfriend just because I had shown him a sign that I *might* give him a chance.
I don’t want to hurt either of these guys but I feel like it isn’t exactly my fault that they got too attached too quickly. I mean, is what I’m doing really bad or is it ok?
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Make sure you make your point to them EXTREMELY clearly. As you can see, telling them that you don't like them that way, hasn't been enough for them to understand.
One guy says it's okay as long as you let me love you, and the other guy says it's ok you'l get used to me. Clearly none of them understand. And the reason they don't understand, is because you haven't really been "EXTREMELY" clear with them. And the only way you can be extremely clear with them, is by letting Matt know that: I can let you love me all you want, but you need to know that your heart might be broken to pieces as I have and will be fucking with other guys. And then see what he says about that or if he will be ok with it. If he says that's okay, he is a cuck. if he says it's not okay, then... well... he can't control your life and its up to you what you wanna do from here. Just tell him this is the situation, deal with it, take it or leave it.
Also Archie needs to know that: I may or may NOT get used to you, only time will tell. BUT!! for the time being, this is not the case and you need to know for your own good that i'm also having affairs with other guys.
I'l teach you the secret of life. Always be dead honest to people about how you feel and think, and i promise you... you will never feel any sort of guilt ever again. As long as you own up to yourself and what/who you are.
Be honest with people, and by being honest, the ones not suited for you will be filtered away, and the ones who are suited for you, will be attracted to you. This is a promise i will make for you. That i know from experience. I'm not gonna lie, i've scared a lot of girls away from me because i hid nothing about myself, especially my bad traits.