Guys, What should I do about these two men?

[Anonymous]

I met this one guy online last year in July we have been talking for over a year now. He and I live four hours away we haven't actually met though. But we are planning to meet in January he actually did try to meet me in person while he was in my state. But I couldn't because I was busy. I asked him if he just wanted a hookup or just sex and he said no.

This morning I got a message from a guy who I hooked up with once last year. He said his girlfriend is leaving him in six months to move to another state to live her life without out him. And that he hopes that he can see me. This was after he said he thought we shouldn't go out anymore. I had been trying to talk to him for a while but he left me on read. And now all of a sudden he wants to see me. I asked him why he changed his mind about seeing me. After he said he didn't want to again. He said because he didn't want to cheat on his girlfriend. But now that she's leaving he wants to see me again.

Should I go still meet the guy who lives four hours away? Or should I start talking to this other guy again?

[JPrez]

The first guy you mentioned seems the obvious choice to me. He is willing to wait and his intentions seem fine as he mentioned no hook-up. The second guy is coming off a relationship and had you on the back burner. While this is not necessarily a bad thing, you just may not know if you are someone he's seeing on the rebound. Will he still have feelings for the former girlfriend? Possible red flag.

[Asker]

I don't see it as me being on the back burner as I initially asked him to be friends with benefits.

[Asker]

But I am going to meet the first guy. We've been talking for over a year now.

[JPrez]

Oh. Well, that could change your perspective then. If there is more of a sexual relationship with him and you feel a connection and also feel it will go in that direction, then he would be the guy to go with. You have already crossed a hurdle in the relationship by having sex so you'll have to find out if you think he wants only sex or something more. It's a tough call to make.

[Anonymous]

None, move on.

[Asker]

You move on and learn how to actually answer a question.