What are these guys issues with me?

[Puppystarfish23]

My best friend anna is very good friends with these two guys at our work but for some reason they make no effort to talk to me when we hang out all together which I find kinda rude.

It's as if I'm not cool enough for them or something which is kinda stupid to act that why still in our late 20s.

Matt isn't so bad. Sometimes I can have a laugh with him and he said congratulations to me when I get married and always says happy birthday to on my birthday buy besides that he treats me like I'm invisible.

Sam is a strange one everyone says he's a super nice guy and everyone gets on with him. He tried talking to me once but it was a very cut and dry conversation. I sent him a friend request on fb a couple years ago and he completely ignored it so I thought to myself fuck him then and unsent it as I know he's very active on social media and would have seen it. I was only trying to be nice and he's got some issue with me. He never says hello to me but will say hello to everyone else. He laughs at my jokes but that's it. He treats me as if I'm invisible too.

It's strange because all my other best friends work friends have been very welcoming towards me and I'm basically there friend now too.

I'm very popular at work as I've helped many people and helped save there jobs in the past. I've have a lot of respect from others as work and most people really got on well with me.

I remember anna telling me her and sam were having a conversation about people who been taken out of this department for being to crap at there Job and sam mentioned my name, my friend corrected him and told him the reason I got took out off that department was for health reasons and I've actually had mangers begging me to come back onto that department.

I don't get his issue with me and I think we'd actually get on as we both have a lot in common but he's got his head up his arse and thinks he's too cool to be seen talking to me.

Updates

8 mo

Has anything I've written in this post suggested I'm unfaithful to my husband or that I'm romantically interested in these two men? Cus obviously you can't talk about the opposite gender without some people assuming such 🙄 men and women can't just have normal relationships especially when there your work colleagues obviously

[unknowngurll1212]

It sounds like you're in a tough spot with Sam and Matt. I get why you’d feel frustrated—it's like you’re being treated unfairly, especially since you're doing so much to help others at work and have earned respect. It can be really annoying when people you try to be nice to don't make the effort back...

It could be that Sam's got something going on, maybe he’s just not the best at socializing or maybe there’s some weird tension that’s never been addressed. I know it sucks when people treat you like you're invisible, especially when you know you’d get along if they just made an effort.

I think it might help to try to talk to him directly (if you feel comfortable), like, “Hey, I’ve noticed we don’t really talk much, is everything okay?” or something casual like that. It could clear up any weirdness. If it doesn’t, well, it’s not on you—sometimes people just don’t vibe, and that’s okay.

But at the end of the day, focus on the relationships that are real and supportive. You clearly have a lot of good friends at work who appreciate you, and that’s what matters most. People like Sam and Matt aren’t worth stressing over if they aren’t treating you right. You deserve to be surrounded by people who value you...

[IslaTheWitch]

there is no law saying that everyone has to like you... accept it and move on :D

[Puppystarfish23]

I know but don't you think it's rude to greet everyone but me when I've not done anything wrong

[IslaTheWitch]

it is... tell them politely that it's rude and you would appreciate it if they treated you like others

[Shiprex]

Maybe Sam is sensing you think he has his head up his arse and that vibe is being broadcast to him and his mate so he avoids you.

Have you tried getting to know them more closely?

[Puppystarfish23]

I try talking to them but they just shut me down and I don't really get much chance to talk to sam nor do I try to as I think he's up himself

[Shiprex]

If these guys are like that maybe they see you as stand-offish and difficult to communicate with or just don't want to have much to do with you.
A clash of personalities. If you want to communicate with them try being pleasant around them instead of giving off the vibe of thinking he's up himself.
Is there a hint of attraction between you two?

[Puppystarfish23]

Oh god no. Sam is definitely not my type plus I'm married. He's short and a massive gym freak. Sam actually has a girlfriend with the same name as me and blonde hair and blue eyes like me but she is wayyyy prettier than me I wouldn't even compare next to her

[Shiprex]

Maybe because you're married they're not interested in getting to know you because you (to them) come across as conceited and "up yourself". That this clash of similar traits doesn't work well so avoidance is better

[Shiprex]

the update is useful but it IS about relationships between genders that you've brought up as if you WANT to have some kind of interpersonal relationship with them whether platonic or not and that you've brought this up because it's affecting you emotionally.

[In_Trance]

Every post now is about you and other guys. I don't think you were ready to get married. You pay too much attention to other guys and you're begging for the same in return.

[Puppystarfish23]

You seem to have a massive issue with everything I talk about. I don't care for male validation if that's what your hinting at. I just thought I might have upset them or something. This website is called girlsaskguys what would me rather ask you questions about makeup and hair?

I have plenty of male friends and I don't see them as anything more than friends. You just seem to only be interested whenever I speak about the opposite gender.

And I'm very happy in my marriage and I don't need to prove anything to strangers on the Internet

[Puppystarfish23]

And not every post is about men you just seem get triggered whenever I speak about them on a website based on women and men trying to understand each other.

My lasts post was asking people who there celebrity look alike are, finding out a friend of mine was a sexual offender and my birthday outfit and you please tell me what them posts had to do with male validation? Not everything I do and say if for men

[In_Trance]

I can't help but wonder what your husband wouldn't think if he read through everything that you asked on GAG

[Puppystarfish23]

I'm very honest with my husband and we talk about everything together so maybe you should mind your own business when it comes to people's marriage. Nothing I've said here or on any other posts would be concerned for my husband

[Puppystarfish23]

Also you never answered my question tell me what my posts had to do with male validation? And Can you tell me what I've said that would upset my husband? Seeming as you seem to be showing so much interest in him

[Jennz6]

You don’t have to believe everything you hear

[Tstrbrainer]

Obviously they are not looking to be friends with you. Why that's an issue.