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If you're emotionally attracted to someone, likes their personality, have a lot in common with them and likes how they treat others, should you go for a relationship despite not being physically into them?

It doesn't mean they're particularly unattractive to look at and they may be average, but just not your preference appearance wise. They may take good care of themselves, but you're not into their dressing sense or facial features. They may smell decent, but it just doesn't turn you on. They're not disgusting, but not great either. #Dating

Is it true you can get physically into someone after emotional attraction, and that a relationship may be successful? Can you look past their "mehs"?

So... my wife is loaded and if i leave i will have nothing, but i have never been happy in this relationship because i have absolutely no physical attraction to her and never have (no she's not fat i just dont feel anything for her physically). People ask why did you marry and it’s because i was desperate and on the rebound when i met her and i was drawn to her personality (i was jaded by hot jerks so i tried a nice girl who wasn’t pretty instead). By the time i wanted to break up i was “in too deep” and married out of guilt... i didn't wanna hurt her feelings which ironically ended up hurting them more when she found out i have no attraction to her. She is willing to work it out and is very loving but i just dont know how to create a spark from nothing and i get filled with bitter envy when i see happy couples because i want that too. I know sex isn’t everything but dang it helps some! She loves me a lot and i dont want to hurt her but i can't stay in this situation for life. Plus im religious so i feel hellbound if i leave and remarry. I also can't stay because she never wants to move since her whole family is on one street and she is very close to them, but its so cold up north and i have major winter depression and wanna move back south for warmth and sunshine. What should i do?

I posted a question recently about a high school classmate for whom I lusted as a teen. She was HOT! I met her years later and she had gained 200 pounds. I commented that she was still a wonderfully sweet and sincere person but I felt absolutely no attraction to her.

Ever met someone years later and been horribly disappointed?

A number of users responded to advise that I, indeed, am a shallow, shallow man and my username should be revoked. Yes, they told me that I am lower than a snake's belly and my heart is colder than a well digger's ass. Apparently, I was "supposed to be" attracted to her because she is a good person and I am "suppose to" ignore the fact that she is now as large as a small John Deere.

The problem with becoming as virtuous as my critics is that physical attraction is something over which I have no conscious control. I can't "decide" to be attracted and make it happen. I could pretend and lie to the girl and tell her how beautiful she looks but that would just be unfair to both of us. How would you feel if you learned, two years into a relationship, that your partner really isn't physically attracted to you?

So. . . what do you do when you meet someone who is nice in all the right ways but simply is not physically attractive to you?

[SJW's, virtue signalers, and others who mistakenly believe that they occupy the moral high ground: save your condescending critical comments for someone who cares. If you think I care, I can assure you that it is an optical illusion. This is not a challenge; just don't do it!]