Why are short men so offended girls have a preference for taller guys?

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Girls can’t help who they’re sexually attracted to in a relationship. Physical attraction is just as important as personality. You can’t force someone to be attracted to someone they’re not or to date them. Women, as well as men have their own set of preferences and there is nothing wrong with that.

Why, then, do I constantly see hateful comments from short guys on YouTube, social media, or anywhere in general calling women “shallow” “bitches” “cunts” and other names for a PREFERENCE. Please explain.

Why are short men so offended girls have a preference for taller guys?

Lighthin · Accepted Answer

They just choose the bluffing strategy and hope it works by creating an illusion of sexual rights that might work with low iq girls that are eager to please and help a sad victim of social imbalance. Don't fall for it.

BeHappy1985 · Accepted Answer

Because they're short. This leads to many insecurities, also having a short penis adds to it quite a lot. All of this builds up a lot of tension which turns them into vicious little creatures.

EmmaMary · Accepted Answer

Isn't this more commonly known as Short Man Syndrome.

Billie_ · Accepted Answer

Men like women with fat asses and big tits. Yet when we have a preference they get mad?

ChronicThinker · Answer

Why are girls so offended when men say they won't date fat girls?

Prettygurl12 · Answer

I agree with you that people are allowed to be attracted to who they want to be.

HOWEVER... to answer your question. How would you feel if you had a quality you couldn't change and 99.9% of the opposite sex ruled you out because of it?

At our core, humans are animals and animals focus on two things... eating. and reproducing. In the REAL animal world, all traits that didn't secure a mate would have died out a long time ago so in theory, all people would be attractive enough to secure a mate. All men would be big and tall and strong enough to be a real force and all women would have birthing hips and big eyes and the perfect hourglass shape. But we're humans with our advanced society and shifting values.

It's no longer about your ability to physically survive the elements or clashes with others or defend a family. It's about your ability to provide for the family in addition to being attractive. This new value on money has shifted what traits survive to the next generation.

So I imagine the short guys are over here craving genuine affection from females, but, for a lot of females, they feel the only thing they can offer is financial security. Which is important, but the order of traits you can offer influences what potential mates you attract and sometimes the mates you attract aren't the ones you want.

roxy_362 · Answer

This is evolution at work, and unfortunately it is working against short guys. You are right that people (in this case girls) can’t help to whom they’re sexually attracted. It is also true that physical attraction is just as important as personality. This is an unfair manifestation of Nature, which results in the complaints of short men. Their reaction is understandable, but if they attack you as a result of that, then this would definitely be wrong.

There are also some short men out there who have established happy relationships with women. So, obviously, they can find someone who will accept their physical characteristics, although she may not be the woman they initially liked. And, that should be accepted as the way human relationships work.

Some short men may also have additional female characteristics, which may result from the same hormonal deficiencies. I was one of those men; only 5'1'' tall without prominent male characteristics. I have transitioned in time to a female, and in addition to the gender more suitable to my nature, I have a far wider range of options for dating. And, I am sorry to say that I am now looking for taller men as a partner, as well. So, I perfectly understand your mindset even though I, once, was a very short man myself.

EpicDweeb · Answer

I just think it's funny because girls seem to constantly complain about how high the standards are that men supposedly set for beauty. I've heard so many complaints at this point about how guys have unreasonable expectations to which women should never have to be held. And yet... height... the epitome of an uncontrollable factor, over-which men clearly have no say, the ULTIMATE unreasonable expectation if you will seems to be held consistently by most women. (At least those who are vocal about it).

I myself don't care if you like how short or tall I am. I just think it's dumb that people so often say "that's just my preference for what I find attractive so you don't get to be offended if I'm not attracted to you. Only to turn around when someone they like DOESN'T find them attractive because they don't meet some physical standard for beauty or attraction." In other words it seems kind of hypocritical and guys get offended because women aren't okay being held to a certain beauty standard themselves, while they are very adamant about HOLDING guys to a certain standard of attraction.

Anonymous · Answer

My uncle is 5’2 and he’s a very respected professor at uni, he’s funny but smart at the same time, and all his students like him. And even some females students had a crush on him, because of his social skills. He’s also adorable with kids, especially with me and my cousins when we were young, and he married a tall attractive woman, who dearly love him for himself. On the other hand i have another uncle who’s tall, handsome and he’s a doctor but his mariage went wrong because he married a gold digger who only spend his money for herself and doesn’t care about him , he’s not a bad guy but he’s very rude and commanding. What’s so funny is that he’s jealous of his short less attractive brother who despite being shorter and making less money married a better looking smart caring woman, and everyone prefer to spend time with him because he know how to make peoples feel at ease plus of having an agréable sense of humour. I remember one day someone spit on his shoulder accidentally because he didn’t saw him, and instead of getting mad my uncle laughed about that and wiped the saliva with an apron, before saying to the guy who was embarrassed that it was okay, he did that with a lot of charisme and a cool clam attitude that made him look very class. It’s probably because of him that I didn’t noticed earlier that being tall is a beauty feature. What I want to say is that some other short men aren’t hated because they are short but because they are bitter and childish. Ofc they aren’t going to attract every women of their dreams and it will be harder for them to succeed, but hard work and a good personality is always rewarded no matter how you look like.

DonCachondo · Answer

It's not so much the nature of the preference itself but rather the popularity of the preference. Every inch has a noticeable impact on the size of your dating pool, especially online where your height is often displayed in writing.

Of course, many factors under a man's control can increase the size of his dating pool with a bit of effort! However, some short men are salty that they have to work harder to attract the same women that some otherwise equally attractive guy who's taller than them. To most of us, that's just life and applies to countless facets of it, yet so many others seem to have missed the memo! One group I do pity are the men at the very short end of the spectrum, and on some level I believe their insecurity of never finding a mate is justified. I can't even imagine how hard they must have to hustle to achieve any HOPE of making it through the cracks, and that's pretty much only if they're lucky enough to have some sort of HIGHLY marketable talent.

Last thing, here's something men should be grateful for and always keep in the back of their minds for whenever they begin declining into despair: Men have an entire litany of paths to a woman's heart! Suffering severely in a few categories can be redeemed by excelling in JUST ONE of many categories--and it's YOUR CHOICE which one! Meanwhile, women are practically stuck to navigate the 2-dimensional Hot-Crazy Matrix, as illustrated with scholarly rigor in the video linked below!

Lauren-green · Answer

Lmao you don't even want to accept anybodies opinions, you sound exactly like a well hated girl on this site. Maybe you are her miss Anon. But I agree it's the same as when girls get upset that guys like shorter girls, or like girls with bigger boobs and a smaller waist. It's because it's not something they can exactly change, they were born that way so it hurts their feelings when so many people say it's a turn off for them.
Don't ask questions, if you're not going to accept other opinions/answers.

God_of_Thunder · Answer

'Cause they're butthurt, and only think preferences are fair, when it doesn't affect them.

Like, yeah; I'm sure that being a short guy sucks, but would you rather get rejected, or be with someone that doesn't find attractive? You could be using the time that you would have wasted, with her, to find someone who does find you attractive.

HomoFuge · Answer

I think it's because height is outside of a man's control. If no one wants to date you because you're fat that's something you can change through exercise and dieting. However, exercising and dieting won't suddenly add on extra inches to your height.

There is also this perception of short men being less masculine than tall men. Despite what feminism tries to say, a lot of women still value masculinity within men. So, a short guy has to work extra harder than a tall guy to prove to women that he isn't some feminine pansy.

All of these factors make short men feel frustrated and so they take their anger out on women.

TheUniqueOne96 · Answer

I'm short AF, like about 5'2 and whilst I don't really care that much, I STRONGLY agree that people are entitled to have preferences, like a massive pet peeve of mine, is when people act as if they're better than someone, act as if they're wrong or try to make others feel bad, simply for having a preference, like everyone's different, get over it.

That being said, it does kind of suck for those that are affected by it, especially as it's not something they can control, so I definitely sympathise with them on that, but that's life and not everyone is considered attractive to everyone, but no one should be made to feel bad about having a taste.

FriedPickles1218 · Answer

I actually completely agree with everything you said and I'm a short guy. It's just like how women think guys feel entitled to thin attractive women but it's not that we feel entitled, that's just what we find attractive.

So yes, no one is entitled to anyone but we are entitled to be attracted to or not attracted to whom ever we please.

Киттйлинк · Answer

Hmm well maybe because it’s something they can’t really do anything about... like a fat girl can lose weight but they can’t grow more lol it’s sad because it’s not like they chose to be short, but they shouldn’t be bitter as they too have preferences and there are plenty of women who date guys their own height and such instead of taller... and they too would probably put down a girl for having hairy body or some mother superficial thing.

We all have disadvantages but there will always be people who are attracted to you, you just have to find them... and maybe lower your standards a bit.

You in general not You asker lol

SomeGuyCalledTom · Answer

This is some self-defeating BS if I ever heard it. I'm about 5'7" (last time I checked at least), and I've never viewed myself as falling short (no pun intended) compared to taller guys. A short guy with strength of character will always outclass a tall guy with no personality or values. And frankly, most "preferences" can be overcome. Many women don't really know what they want until it's right in front of them. Ask any woman what her "list" for ideal man is, and she'll riff off all these qualities that she picked up from some Hollywood movies or whatever. But then if a guy comes along and she has sexual chemistry with him, even though he doesn't fit her "ideal man list", then she's still likely gonna go for it. What else is she gonna do, go home alone and eat microwave noodles for one while watching the shopping channel? :P

morimeme1 · Answer

Because really it's not about sexual attraction, it's some stupid bias in their head. Especially girls who are short and reject guys who are still taller than them but just don't allign with what society deems as tall. Like chill midget, he is tall in comparison to you what else do you want.

alohaahyes · Answer

I don't get why people are bringing up weight in a question about height. You can't control height but you can control weight.

MrMilti · Answer

I am a tall guy and I am also offended, when women say they dont date men under 1.80m (6ft).

Though I am 1.85m, in online dating, when the woman asks about my height, I reduce it to 1.75 and see what happens.

Because if that would be a dealbraker for her, I am not interested in this woman anyways.

emptygracey · Answer

It's genetics. Short guys can't magic themselves taller and when a woman rejects them because of that it makes them more insecure, causing them to build up a resentment and lash out at women in general. But it's also completely different to look at a woman and a man's preferences, because in western society women have most of the choice when it comes to romance. Usually a man is expected to settle for less, whereas a woman can be as picky as she wants purely because of a man's biological need to produce offspring.

young_old_soul · Answer

Height is something we cannot control. In general, but not always, women prefer their man to be taller than them. There's nothing wrong with having a preference, but shorter guys will usually blame their height if they struggle with women, even though it's mostly their personality that is to blame. This has been made worse by dating websites, where many women will say "I only date guys over 6 foot." The equivalent is for men to say "I only date women under 160 pounds." The arbitrary cutoff makes it appear that this person only cares about a specific physical trait rather than personality.

There's also the double standard where it's seen as shallow for men to say "I'd rather she not be overweight" but then there's nothing wrong with girls saying "6 foot or taller, no exceptions." I don't associate with the "meninists" as they are just the male version of the radical feminists, but there is no denying in that the double standard exists.

Gavyn · Answer

Why are fat women offended that guys would rather date skinnier, healthier people? Guys can't help what they're sexually attracted to, and it just so happens that morbidly-obese women are not one of them.

Before you bitch and moan about it being 'different,' you're right! It IS different. Unlike short men, fat women can control the issue with exercise, a healthy diet, and if necessary a weight loss surgery. However, these days most do nothing to control the issue and even have the audacity to try to force us to find it attractive. If you think short men who complain are unappealing, imagine how unappealing fat, grown-ass women who try to make you think they're 'sexy' and 'beautiful' 'the way they are' despite being the exact opposite and when called out on it they have a tantrum are.

betaTester · Answer

How tall are you and what's your height preference?
Yes `no one wants to be rejected on something they can't control` is a good explanation. It answers the why. People are entitled to their choice, and their choice offends other people, thus other people are offended, this is a very common phenomenon.
But you seem to want the answer to a different question "is it okay for short men to be offended girls have preference for taller guys?"
It's a similar reason why ugly women are very bitter, the first incel was a female who killed herself on television, literally nobody offended her yet she is still offended.

ThisIsMyOpinion · Answer

It doesn't matter how tall we are.
When I was 16 I was already 6 feet tall. After a gimnastic performance in my school I was a sweaty mess and in a stupid outfit. Three girls that were there actually asked me to move out of the way because I was blocking their view to another guy. HE WAS SHORTER THAN ALL THREE OF THEM! I was taller than them and they still wanted to see him. He had a lot of style truth be told.
I moved half a inch just to mess with them xD
Anyway it really depends. Girls do go for the short guy sometimes.

GuidoThePizzaMaker · Answer

I loathe most short guys.
My bestfriend is 5'3" and never once complained about dating. Only short guy I respect
Most other ones just bitch, can't take a joke. Most always feel the need to prove something.

This question reminds me of that bagel guy from long-island.

little_bird1 · Answer

Because people don't understand, or don't want to admit, that personality doesn't matter INITIALLY. It's all about looks. It's a prerequisite.
Personality only starts to matter later on, after we've already established a sexual desire for a person.

808state · Answer

It’s more so about body shaming someone about something they can’t change.

There’s nothing wrong with being a short person make or female. Imply so is what would make a person mad.

It’s not that they get upset about you not being attracted to short men. It’s about trying to normalize not liking short men.

The added judgments in the OP and comments should speak for themselves and answer the question. You just have to wade through the disrespectful and immature people to get your answer.

HereIbe · Answer

Actually, unless you're a subhuman animal, you CAN "help" who you're sexually attracted to. However, if you're just a blind, stupid, base beast who can't rise above the lowest and stupidest instincts, then you can't. That being said, maybe women don't WANT to "help" and would PREFER to just be led around blindly by instincts like any old bitch in heat. If that's what floats their boats, It doesn't bother me.

As to why shorties get huffy and grumpy over height preference, it's simple: IT DENIES THEM PUSSY AND THEY CAN'T CHANGE THE ATTRIBUTE! Any man gets grouchy over that.

lernulo · Answer

Well, first of all, I don't call any of those things to any girl, no matter what.

Second, it's different a preference to a red flag.

If it's a preference it's normal, everybody have.

If it's a red flag, then she has superficiality levels very high, and it's time to see if she is narcissistic too.

(one of the most evident things about narcissistic people is their care about image).

So I don't judge for a preference it's like when you talk to a guy and says he prefer blond girls, and after you see him with a brown haired girl and he doesn't mind, because it was a preference.

Problem is when he says blond and doesn't give any chance to any other, just because he likes blond.
(it's indicative of mental problems)

And she has the right to have "preferences" because in second case aren't preferences. And I have the right to search for a healthy relation based on love.

Dongtai · Answer

I just find the girls who don’t care. Why should I waste my time on the ones who do?

I don’t get offended. Everyone has their preferences right? I would never date a girl who was overweight. I just can’t do it. So if a woman doesn’t want me for my height, that’s fair but guess what? I can find one who does want me. So it evens out.

lightbulb27 · Answer

because we are limited by nature of our design and means we can't win them, we feel inadequate.
One learns to accept oneself, make best of oneself... and most importantly... accept others as they are. there's great reward in working to win over a woman that doesn't care for me due to heigh, or salary or perception, but win over on some other attribute that she finds value in.

White-American89 · Answer

Same reason fat girls get offended for guy's preference for skinny chicks

Dragonstarterplus · Answer

Probably because women can publicly ask men how tall they are and height shame men for something they have no control over and get patted on the back for being an empowered woman who knows what she wants and doesn't settle blah blah blah. But men can't publicly ask women how much they weigh or fat shame women for something they do have control over without being called a sexist pig that only sees females as objects to please him

SkyRez · Answer

You mention all online commenting. The people commenting anything negative, with little to no context, and very sad, lonely, depressed folk. They really shouldn't be in your reference.

I know a ton of short guys, perfectly fine with it, and frankly, just as lucky as any other guy.

Basically: your observation is flawed by looking as a single demographic, that being anonymous folk online, who and sad and lonely enough to post obscene language on... whatever.

alice55 · Answer

Shorts women get extremely offended too when guys reject them cause they're too short. It's just a complex shorts people have.
And I can definitely understand why a short guys would be offended if a short girl reject him, if the girl is 5'0 then a guys that is 5'7 or 5'8 is definitely going to be tall compared to her so rejecting him cause he's "too short" is quite a bullshit things to do.

Nivinxus · Answer

I'm not even that tall, but I don't really care. Women want tall guys, fine, some women want guys the same height... fine, so long as they don't complain that I like bigger tits and slimmer bodies with red hair and 10/10 face.

Thing is, both women and men are as shallow as a puddle and if they can't look past that, then they can't look past anything, they'll get what they deserve. People care too much about what other people think, let them suffer, they'll either learn or suffer again.

A-man-22 · Answer

I'm 6'1 and I'm still a bit annoyed about it.

Men are hated in for having a weight preference:
weight is something you can change

Height is something you can't change no matter what you do.

Plus you exclude a lot of guys from the dating pool if you do this.
Preferences are fine to have but if you don't compromise on one or two of them occasionally that's when it becomes an issue.

TheKack · Answer

As a shorter guy, I haven't said this, I don't think most short guys have. Nevertheless, the vocal minority is always highlighted.

They say it because they're insecure. I'm only 5'7, always been able to find girls. Know a guy that married a gorgeous woman and he's 5'5. Preferences are fine, some dudes are just whiney little babies about their insecurities.

SergeantSmoke · Answer

Well, sure... some men are a bit hurt by this... the shorter Men. But we MUST respect a Girl for her preferences, She's perfectly allowed to do that! I mean, can Men dish, but not take? For example: I've heard so many Men say things like "Oh, I like big boobs" and "Short Girls are better"... But do they think about how that makes tall Girls, and Small-Breasted Girls feel? I'm sure it hurts very badly!

IlyaTheImpaler · Answer

I just answered this yesterday, the dual question  😂😂😂

Cazper · Answer

Because you hurt their pride and that's not a rational thing. Sure you are allowed to date who you want - fortunately - and I'm not defending those that turn to slurs and attacks. Just saying that's why. It hurts their pride and it something they can do NOTHING about so frustration mounts.

Factshurt90 · Answer

For the same reason fat women get mad that men prefer slimmer women. Life is unfair. When one group is marginalized as negative it hurts, it sucks and it’s easy to be bitter about it.

Anonymous · Answer

I am not short for where I live, and girls don't have minimum height requirements like they do in USA. So I think it's just a US thing. Coz I think girls there tend to write things like '6ft minimum please' in their dating profiles.

Girls here sure go for tall guys, but it's usually 2-3 inches taller than the girl. But in USA even a girl who is 5'1 might have a minimum 'requirement' not preference of 5'10 or something.

AD240pCharlie · Answer

I don't care. I'm not short, but I'm not "tall" either, and I only have a problem with someone having a preference is they're the kind of person who is hypocritical about it. You know, the women who have a problem with men rejecting women who are fat or overly muscular and then does the same thing herself with short men.

nerms123 · Answer

I often see short guys dating taller girls. It’s all about confidence I guess.

iFarted · Answer

Chances are that they dealt with rejection cause of their height their whole life. (Not saying it's justified) It definitely sucks being rejected for something one can't change.

I'm only 5'5" and I've been rejected cause of my height, I just learned to deal with rejection. Doesn't bother me like it used to.
I've dated girls taller than me and they mentioned that I was confident and wasn't letting my height hold me back so they never really my height as a negative thing.

1CentWorth · Answer

LOL I'm very short and never had an issue. I simply didn't date women who had that preference. What's the point of whining and getting worked up about it? Sounds like whoever you're thinking about needs to *hehe* grow up :-)

cassandraa · Answer

They're upset at short/average height women who go after tall men only or majority of the time. I can relate to them because I've been rejected multiple times because I'm really tall and it's extremely annoying because it is out of my control.

CandacePerry · Answer

Short guy has limited options. Girls has lot more options. I don't like all the attention on a tall guy. I just go for short guy since it better personality. Some of short guys sometime have a learning disabilities. That they can't help.

SUMAIREBRAHIM · Answer

During conversation with my cousins one of my short cousin made fun of me when height topic came up
I didn't reply and pretended as if I didn't heard him because If I would reply him he might get offended😒😣😔
He is 5'7 and I'm 5'11in half to six in morning
And some of my elder cousins who are shorter than me they get insecure while taking about height 🧐

MM442 · Answer

I was told by tall men that the tall men purposely get short girls to date inorder to keep short men from getting no girls at all. Tall men said they get short girls and tall girls. Tall men will bounce back and forth between short girls and tall girls so short men won't have any girls available to date or marry. Tall men demand they have everything, short men have nothing.

Warmapplecrumble · Answer

Its sad that I am 5ft6" with heels I can be 6ft. :'( lmao and majority of guys become short... all the muscular guys usually are same height as me and shorter than me in heels.

brandonk · Answer

Tbh who cares guys are gonna do who they wanna do. Girls gonna do who they wanna do. And bitches gon bitch. I mean it's that simple.

Juxtapose · Answer

Because women will reject guys for being an inch under 6 feet lol. That's shallow as fucking hell.

I love tits and ass, but I would totally date a woman with a flat chest and a flat ass if she was fun to be around.

Bman4907 · Answer

It's the same level of rage women get when a guy won't ask them out because they don't have the right size chest or no butt. It's just frustrating for them because they are filtered out before the pictures even load.

Justcallmealy · Answer

First, not all women are so much into taller men. Second, women get offended when they hear how most men prefer curvier (bigger boobs, some butt) girls over the skinny ones. But again, this is not everyone

Anonymous · Answer

Why you even care?

Just walk like you do past barking dog.

It is his problem not yours they can cry all day nothing will change and even then they will look less manly anyway, with all that cry and insults.

Only weak and low IQ level people do it...

Mädchen · Answer

Why are fat girls so offended if guys want fit girls?😁

LiamTroisslav · Answer

Tbh never had a problem with being only 5'8. Girls prefer tall guys but that doesent mean, they would never date someone who is shorter than their preference but I noticed that a lot of short guys make a huge deal about it and are frustrated which makes them even less attractive. If you are short dont see it as a disadvantage, relationships are way more rewarding if you have to work for it maybe we can't grow taller but we can grow as a person.

Babygirl_S · Answer

I also find it weird. I mean we girls don't even judge too many things in a guy's appearance and just want him to be bigger and okay looking while guys always want perfection. Why can't we have some preferences if they have many?

Clearblueskye · Answer

Fat girls also complain guys won’t date them. We all have preferences.

Anonymous · Answer

Short guys know their options are severely limited.

Philyouup · Answer

Well it is shallow. But understandable. I myself seem to attract taller women. Last 3 women I dated were 5’9” and 5’10”. I’m 5’6”. My ex wife was 5’10”. So I’m. Not sure what the issue is. Oh, confidence!

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