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Disclaimer: I am not trying to pursue anything since he’s married.. I do find him very attractive. He’s an executive of my company who’s the boss of my boss.

Earlier this year some very unfortunate family death happened. I was a mess, tried to quit the job with no notice. Surprisingly he reached out to me and convinced me to stay. We had a conversation that I opened up to him and was totally vulnerable. He was very understanding and offered me a month off ( mind you I was only 2 months into the job). When I came back, I noticed he became more attentive. He would come to my desk and tried to initiate a conversation. We don’t really have a lot in common so he would always ask about my pets, nagged me to bring pictures of them and even offered to print out their pictures for me 😂. He would assign project for me to work with him directly. He skipped an interview with a candidate to attend a welcome back group lunch with me.

I was so depressed in the past few months and lost 30pounds in a few months and so physically I looked very different now. I felt like he looked at me differently and sometimes he checks me out. When I recently dyed my hair, none of the other male coworkers said anything except him. He asked if I changed my hair color and told me it looks good.. Last week he came by my desk and asked me what my Halloween costume was for the work party. It’s a pretty obvious one. I asked him you can’t tell? He paused, looked at me up and down and claimed he doesn’t know lol. Then when I told him what my costume is, he had an smile as if he already knew it and just waited for me to say it out..

He approached me less recently ever since I started acting colder to him. Now he spent more time talking to my boss, who’s married and physically I wouldn’t say she’s his type? He still try to chat with me briefly when he came to talk to her. But then there’s times he initiated a conversation and excused himself abruptly? Not sure if it’s all just in my head.

I just don’t get how people are able to get lucky and meet someone special. I’m going to be 27 soon and knowing that I’ve never been in a real relationship and even out on a date with a guy that has me swoon is odd. I’ve given up on dating apps, I just want a cute smart guy next door. I’m told I’m cute too but was never the woman to get approached by guys in person hence why I figured apps were a better bet. And dating apps have provided nothing but frustration and made me doubt myself even more, as you can see from another post I don’t have a social life. Anytime I hear people say you just haven’t met the right guy it boils my blood. Men and their conceited ways also irritate me but I can’t help but feel the desire to just want that love that I see portrayed all the time on social media and have a guy wine and dine me you know lol.

On a serious note, I mean I’ve known women that say they met their boyfriends while playing video games or in such a random encounter. I play video games and have done the online aspect of it, I really don’t go looking for love any longer (hence dating apps) but don’t understand how it happens by chance for everyone but me. I don’t get what I need to do, I genuinely
know I’m not the issue here.

Long story short: I just fail to meet a guy that’s cute and has a good personality, along with guys just never cold approaching me period.