Why would she start acting this way?

[Anonymous]

I don’t really understand why she’s acting this way with me. We are friends at work and we always got on well together. I made her laugh and we just had heaps of chemistry. I guess I tested her reaction to see if it bothered her that I liked another girl at work and now she’s acting like this and being distant and cold. I think I might of hurt her I’m not sure because she’s trying to make me jealous and get me to notice her but when I approach her other times she acts busy but always stares at me and look away other times. As this kept happening I was fed up and asked her about it and she denied it and now we aren’t talking. She’s tried to approach me again but I’ve ignored her because I can’t keep doing this shit she needs to tell me what is going on between and wbu she’s acting this way.

Updates

+1 y

She’s really upset we aren’t talking now but I don’t get it because I know the same thing will keep happening over and over again

[coldmarch]

Yes, I think she was interested in you. If you said she became cold -after- you tested her reaction to your interest about another coworker, then that's surely it.
The bigger problem here is she denied when you asked her straight about stuff. Yet you're not talking, I guess she lied. Maybe because she was hurt and decided to stay away, to get over you.
Actually this is funny because you're not even together, yet communication problems arised already very strong and you even kind of "broken up". Misunderstandings, untold things, lies, poor communication skills, playing games and inability to face conflicts. Not a big premise for a relationship anyway. Granted she will communicate wrongly also in a relationship at some point when any problem arises.
If you really want her, I think you should play your last card and getting a chance to talk again then ask her out. You might also tell how the things are, telling her you like her, and that you noticed all her workarounds after you shown interest also in other girls, telling her you actually did it to counter her attempts to make you jealous but didn't expect all of this mess, and that you're giving her only this chance to get closer to you and to have a date, if she wants. Maybe with an ultimatum and with all the honesty thrown at her she might get the chance and stop all this bs.

[Asker]

Thank you yes I should trying being upfront with her and be honest. It’s driving me insane and I need to do something to end it, either way whatever happens happens. I guess I started this and it’s my fault she’s acting this way. I just didn’t think she would react like this.

[Vikkrram]

I am goin through this... buddy though my case is a bit different... But people when get hurted wid anyone behaviours what they do is they really start to act cold and distant from that person and worst they ghost them.

So people never know the reason what happend between them. So at last things goes on like this and become so difficult to face each other at some point of time.

[Asker]

So do you think I hurt her?

[Vikkrram]

I think buddy girls don't like to listen about another girls... in front of them... and specially from that people whom they had feelings for...

[boggboss]

Just tell her until she speaks yo you about what's wrong u won't pretend everything is fine