Search Results: what you would change about your partner

Okay…..

so there were incidents with my boyfriend, that made me question about our relationship. Communication wise.

whenever I discuss with him about something, he makes jokes about it.

Example: I was telling him a story about me going to a Mormon church meeting. That he asked “are those the people who wear white gowns and burn black people on the cross?” I responded with “what?, no. That’s the ‘ku klux klan’.” Then he made a joke comment, “really? I thought you had a membership 😄” 🤨…. so I was kinda uncomfortable about that comment. Then he kept going on saying “you should join, cause you already look white lol.”

Then I changed the subject and was talking about my family. How my mom punishes my sisters and I, whenever our partners are unhappy. Like it’s our fault. Then my boyfriend made another comment saying “haha, so your mom would like me better than you.”

I mean I was kinda stunned about this conversation and what he said. That I let him go and hung up the phone. Now I’m here questioning and wondering how our relationship will be in the future. “Will he be supportive of me and be on my side and protect me? Or will he make fun of me in sensitive matters?”

27F, my mom lives down the road and my dad is out of state. They’re divorced, I find my dad to be the most annoying person on the planet. I see my mom every weekend, I have friends around my age who also say that they’d be annoyed if they were in contact with their parents too often. This applies if you don’t live with your parents, I live alone. I don’t have an issue when my mom FaceTimes me everyday but my dad is so effing annoying. We used to argue when I was younger because I felt like he used to take his anger out on me but things have changed & we haven’t fought in years. I get frustrated at the fact that everyone pussyfoots around him & sympathizes with the fact that his family doesn’t care about him & “he doesn’t have anyone”. My moms family is just as toxic but she has a partner & my half brothers, my dad has friends and chooses to be single. I sometimes wonder if I was married with kids, if he would be in contact with me as often. I don’t have patience & it’s not my fault his family is a POS, I need to live my own life. And please, spare the “treasure it, you’ll miss it once he’s gone”. If you are referring to one of your parents that passed, I know you were probably annoyed if they contacted you this often when they were alive. And sometimes the reasons he calls, his questions and stupid things he says makes me wonder why a phone call is even necessary. Just reply to the text, it’s like he just looks for a reason. I’m going to be thirty and shouldn’t be in contact with my family this often, it feels like I haven’t grown up.

TL;DR: Would being in contact with your parents this often and being independent bother you?

It is perfectly ok if you prefere old men and i dont care about your preference. This is not the point of the question. I just realize more and more men in their 40s-50s on gag who think women in their 30s+ are leftovers and undesireable etc and young women would want these old men. So i am seriously curious if this is true or not.
Statistic about the age gap among married couples is below and it says that the age gap is 1-6 years and not 12-60+ years

Here a scientific explanation :
"Evolutionary Psychology studies suggest that women prefer slightly older or similarly aged partners... Several recent studies have shown changes in male reproductive parameters as a result of increased age. In the current review of medical literature, we found evidence that much older men are more likely to be infertile, women with much older partners are more likely to experience problems during pregnancy, and children of much older men are more likely to have genetic abnormalities. Based on these findings, we suggest that reproducing with much older men does not represent the best reproductive option for women, which would explain the female preference for only slightly older or similarly-aged mates."

Then a statistic that shows the correlation between divorce and age gap below.

27F, my mom lives down the road and my dad is out of state. They’re divorced, I find my dad to be the most annoying person on the planet. I see my mom every weekend, I have friends around my age who also say that they’d be annoyed if they were in contact with their parents too often. This applies if you don’t live with your parents, I live alone. I don’t have an issue when my mom FaceTimes me everyday but my dad is so effing annoying. We used to argue when I was younger because I felt like he used to take his anger out on me but things have changed & we haven’t fought in years. I get frustrated at the fact that everyone pussyfoots around him & sympathizes with the fact that his family doesn’t care about him & “he doesn’t have anyone”. My moms family is just as toxic but she has a partner & my half brothers, my dad has friends and chooses to be single. I sometimes wonder if I was married with kids, if he would be in contact with me as often. I don’t have patience & it’s not my fault his family is a POS, I need to live my own life.