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I’ve been seeing someone for a few weeks now and I’ve been enjoying my time with him. We live about an hour away from each other but he makes the drive to me on the weekends when we’re free so we can hang out. We’ve gotten really comfortable with each other (maybe too comfortable, he’s popped a zit on my face) but he has a toothbrush for me at his place.

My biggest issue/pet peeve is communication when we don’t see each other. I have really bad anxiety and when it’s complete silence for days, I always assume the worst and that it’s my fault or I somehow messed things up. We’re both young and he works a ton of odd jobs to make ends meet for himself. Which I understand is rough, he’s completely independent saving up money for law school tuition, rent, food, etc. He had a personal matter that didn’t allow him to work for some time so he’s been trying to catch up on that.

I brought up the communication before when it was radio silence for a few days and told him I assumed he wasn’t interested anymore, and he explained his personal situation. I understand. But the last time we saw each other, I jokingly asked if he’s going to go ghost again. He told me that because he wasn’t able to work for that while, he has a lot to make up in the coming week to make up for all that money he lost. Which means there probably won’t be time for our usual phone calls (they’re long and the nature of his jobs don’t allow him to get on the phone and I completely understand why).

It’s been about a week and I haven’t heard a word. I know he’s fine, he shared a post on his Facebook. I was upset because a simple text would have taken that same amount of time. At the same time, I’ve also been in situations where I don’t talk to people but I’ll be active on my social media.

Guys, because he warned me in advance that it would be a busy week or more trying to make up for all the money he lost, is that a legit excuse to be silent for so long?

So as you can see, I have quite the post history on Reddit for the time I’ve been a member. I mostly post about work advice, anxiety and under dating advice. I’m 26 and think I’m just stupid. Let me explain: I’ve never worked in leadership, I previously worked in academic advising and in my 2nd week as a career services coordinator at another school, I’m very oblivious and get distracted easily. I just don’t understand why I can never excel at a role, I am having a pity party but I really feel like I try my best. When it came to meetings, providing input/suggestions, noticing discrepancies in the depts etc, I am CLUELESS. Nothing ever comes to mind, it’s when someone else brings it up, that’s when the light bulb goes on. It’s just never enough, I worked in academic advising and dealt with tons of students, my boss would go weeks without talking to me and then boom there were corrections that presented itself back to back. I’m new to career services in this new job and we are in week two, doing go to trainings about their resume/getting an idea of what they wanna do before graduating. I’m missing things in the resume, this is brand new to me but my other counterpart is also new & putting in her suggestions to the students/excelling in communication. I am glad for her if she is good at what she does but I really don’t want to come across as inadequate to management/the students. She has years of experience in higher ed, I don’t think specifically career services. I just have a hard time expressing myself and I feel there’s always some kind of correction that’s brought to my attention from someone with any job I’ve had. I’m at the point where I just want to walk out and quit this new job. It’s always a repeat of issues I’ve had at previous jobs. Why bother if my effort isn’t ever enough? Input please, am I as dumb as I presume? You can also check post history and I’ll answer any questions.