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Just as a bully's parents are responsible for raising a kid with little empathy towards others, can the opposite be said too?

If the parents don't teach the kid life skills, how to stand for themselves and others or get them involved in social activities then that might play a role.

In my case I was just fortunate to have been friends with a kind, popular crowd consisting of 3 girls and a guy. If anyone tried messing with me, they would take care of the matter immediately. Along the way, I gained social skills (ex: never look down and hide when someone is talking to you) and became more streetwise; things my parents never taught me.
I could have easily become a bullied victim if it weren't for their empathy towards me.

My younger brother on the other hand wasn't so lucky. He's now 22 and has resumed therapy sessions. He never gone out on a date, never enrolled in college and barely has friends. He suffered more bullying in HS amd started getting thinner at some point. Though I blame my parents. They spoiled him a lot more than me. My parents tied his shoes until he was 12. He was way behind in his development and super naive (worse than me). At the age of 17, his parents and I were still doing all his homeworks, he couldn't even serve his own breakfast (nor boil water nor fry an egg), go to a grocery store and buy things, etc.

My answer is an absolutely not. There was mutual abuse in the household. My father started with the hitting. Years later my mother started hitting back and at times hitting first too. It's been a while since they stopped hitting each other during arguments. Totally unhealthy. Disgusting behavior.

I refuse to allow this and will not be raising kids in that type of environment. If you're stuck with someone that you feel the need to hit, get help or get out. If you allow yourself to be hit, then you're setting a horrible example for your children and others.