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Like the song says, "Old habits die hard." Even with feminism and gender equality being ingrained in our culture, a lot of men still have an instinct to be a provider and protector for women in their lives. Whether that's biological, or a cultural thing, blah blah blah, that's not the point. The point is, some men want to protect. It's why short girls get so much attention on the dating scene. It's why some men don't want women serving in combat roles. It's why men so on and so forth. Men want to be their woman's knight in shining armor. But that's not always the case.

So this question is essentially asking how many boys and men here have that instinct to be a protector, and how many do not.

my mom was and still is a pretty toxic person. she divorced my dad when I was 3 and took me away from him and then decided to poisoned my head by telling me that it was his fault, that supposedly he never loved me and left me for her to raise me on her own.

I dont even know where to start on all the things she used to do to me while growing up. she used to

• take out all of her everyday stress and frustration out on me
• she used to scorn me whenever I stood up for myself
• always compared/contrast me with my cousins and kids of her friends who supposedly did things better than I did
• limit my friends
• limit my hobbies
• used to take off and leave me behind with relatives and other friends of hers

but it obviously couldnt just end there, as I got older she used to

• treat me like I always her husband
• was obligated to get a job and help out with spending (even though my stepdad made enough)
• pressure me to move out and "get out of her life" literally on a daily basis
• always looked for an excuse to pick fights with me and then acted like a victim when I would retaliate

and the list goes on. After High School I've become a toxic cunt magnet myself, in fact I have 2 older brothers who were in and out of toxic relationships as I grew up. I used to watch them go through all that hell that I promised myself that I will stay single because I dont want to be like them. but again whenever I break this promise the women I show interest or show interest in me always end up showing their true colors later on and end up repulsing to me.

till then I was always told that us humans will always be bound to attract or be attracted to people like our parents. Celebrities like Eminem are a prime example of this as well. so I was wondering should we children of toxic parents just remain single forever? is this our only antidote for peace?

Successful pairings, is something that I've thought about for many years, and I'm very analytical.

Just to be clear, I am talking about adults dating adults, sibling order, and tendencies from childhood that follow us into adulthood.

As a youngest child, I've felt least connected to Eldest children, as it seems they are the more pushy, more opinionated, despite that I was older by 10 plus years.
Better connected to middle children, with no explanation why.
And most connected to youngest children. Youngests seem, to me, to be more patient, more open minded, and the most willing to listen, by and large.
I've never dated an only child before.
There's one exception to that rule, and she was an utterly spoiled, youngest, brat. She had to be the center of attention. Everything had to be about her, and she was the most needy woman I've ever dated.

My current lady love, who is making pull out my hair in clumps, is an eldest, and I'm thinking history is repeating itself. And yet I'm so incredibly in love with her. It just seems, as an eldest, she is used to calling the shots and telling others what to do. Despite that I'm older than her.

Anyway, please think twice about it before answering the poll. Give the question fair consideration.