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I met a guy online who told me he stayed on dating sites for 3 years. He told me he never had sex with anyone except for one girl three years ago. He travelled all the way to my city for four hours just to meet me.

When I first met him, I did pull away, but then he tried to prove that not all men are the same. He didn't force me to have sex with him. But then he told me something that somehow scared me—he doesn't want to commit. I did not bother to think about it and just had a good time with him. We shared a lot of talks, fun, and walks. We were both happy and just sending out positive vibes until we had sex together.

After the two days we spent together, he said he had to leave me to visit his friend "girl" in another city, which is 30 minutes away. I was curious about it, but he said she is just a family friend, and they have been friends for many years and are very close. Her family is already his family. He stayed there for three days, and I did not bother to overthink it.

We still communicated together right after he left, and we have been calling and texting each other for three weeks now, getting to know each other better. He eventually told me that he wanted to get serious about me; he sent a lot of kiss and hug emoticons. We become more comfortable with each other.

Now, he told me he wants to drop by to see me in the city next week. I asked him, "Where are you going?" He said to his friend, "Girl," again for two days, but his ultimate goal is to meet me.

I felt uncomfortable and scared if he was telling the truth, and I somehow doubted that this girl could be his girlfriend or fling. I pulled away again from him, even if it did hurt me a lot, and said I needed space.

Now my question is, do I need advice on whether I shouldn't be jealous of this friend's "girl" OR should I be suspicious and cautious of this guy?

I’m in hybrid graduate school where we meet on campus in person for a couple of weeks every other month or so, and there’s ~95 people in my class. We all have communicated with each other throughout the first 6 months in this program either virtually and/or in person. I’m the president of the student community service group and a member of the student council, plus often do well academically (not showing off but giving you an idea on how much I communicate with the class regularly via email).

We’ve been here in person this past week at school and I knew there were a couple of people who’s birthdays are this week (mine is today). I asked 1 individual (she’s on the same school service group with me) Monday about plans of all 3 of us celebrating together so no one felt excluded, and she said she had no plans in mind at that moment. The following day, I asked the 2nd individual what he would’ve liked to do for all 3 of us and he said something similar. Yesterday, after classes, they both went out and had fun without including me knowing it was also my birthday and me asking them what they would want to do. The only reason why I know they celebrated without me is from a girl I’m staying at an Airbnb with that participated in their function without mentioning me/my birthday to them. I just don’t know how to go about dealing with them now and why would they do something like this. What do you think?