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There is a not so good looking girl who has a huge crush on me. I am facing a dilemma when and what to say to her
The good me 😇: I can directly tell her that I am not interested in her and apologize her but it would be rude because I would be judging her solely on her appearance and somewhat if the roles were reversed I would feel hurt and rejected.
The evil me 😈 : Date her seduce her sleep with her and then you can decide later and why not. I have had a lot of rejections and scathing responses from girls during my not so successful days and this world is evil and self-serving, so why not eat chicken legs when the chicken has flown right into your arms.

What to chose and why?

Recently, I've been thinking a lot of the many harmful stereotypes towards people of the LGBT spectrum, especially when it comes to women. Not only lesbians but also bisexuals, pansexuals, asexual etc. because of their physical appearance, fashion choices and gender identity. Firstly, many queer femme or "feminine-presenting" girls & women are always assumed as "straight, that they only look good to attract men or at least masculine-presenting people, even though femmes can be attracted to other femmes. Never the fact that they feel that they have to come out every day, and when they do, nobody takes them seriously, not by their family & friends, not by straight men who always try to hit on them, not even by other people of the LGBT spectrum.

This short comic is a perfect example of the importance of femme visibility femme invisibility:

On the other hand, Butch or "masculine-presenting" queer girls & women also have a problem but different, including the expectations both Lgbt and non-Lgbt people, have (being strong, no emotions, people threatened by them, accused as being either a "man" or "trans" and people telling that they're ugly because they don't fit the stereotypically feminine norm, despite the fact that there's more than one type of femininity and being butch doesn't always mean "masculine". Even women who aren't LGBT and aren't gender-conforming are always assumed, perceived or accused to be lesbians despite the evidence or proof that their not.

Not many image or comic examples but here is one:

To be honest, I'm sick and tired of humans judging certain groups or others by their looks just because of how the media, fiction, books and other forms stereotype them. Humans are supposed to be an "intelligent" species, so when will they learn?

Finally, I would love to see your answers whether or not femmes or butch have it harder.

Note: I might do one for men too.

The key word is USUALLY. Think about the best looking girls you know. The traditional 9s and 10s of the world. If you don't mind, add your reason (s) and/or explanation (s) to the comments.

I noticed that many girls just hate girls based off of their appearance and many girls love them just based off of their appearance. I do think that judging someone just on their appearance is a little messed up, but I guess there is some kind of reason why many of you feel the way you do. Maybe the way they look brings you back to some kind of thought or memory that is deeper than physical appearance.

If you're in the LGBTQ community, it would be great if you specify that.

#Shallow #Judgmental #Judging

My definitions:
Judgmental = Judging people and things a lot. Usually in a negative way, although you may rate someone positively too. A "negatively" judgment may be: "What a loser", "Why did he take that stupid job?", "Why is she drinking too much?" etc. It can be judging both looks, personality and other things.

Shallow = Similar as judgmental, but may be more appearance specified than in general speaking. E. g. on a shallow thought may be: "Eeew, that dress is ugly!", "Shit, he's fat and old", "This hairstyle is ugly, but the woman looks way worse", "I would never date that weirdo and he can't put on some good jeans either" etc.

My Opinion:
I'm definitively a shallow and judgmental person. It's hard to break the bad habit. I judge people constantly on both looks, personality and everything all the time. Even their smell and accent. It's natural for human beings to be sinners of the world and doing a lot of nasty things. Ha ha! At least I didn't start any world wars.

Bumble recently added new filters, with the only physical one being height, something that is predominantly used by women to judge men. There's no weight or breast size filters, presumably because men aren't allowed to be shallow but women are. Is this not a double standard? This goes beyond Bumble though, women are encouraged to find the "man they deserve" which is typically your handsome Prince Charming, but if a man dare desire an attractive woman he is typically ostracized for it.