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My previous boyfriend (now ex) expected great/elaborated meals, different soups, creative salads and other desserts. However, the fact that he was demanding and doing little in return (I was working too) to make me feel appreciated got me unmotivated quickly. I started switching back to simple dishes.

I've invited him a couple times to good places (sometimes also spoiled him with a good gift) and he didn't reciprocated. He used to focus on fancy things for himself only, always used discount tickets, wanted to go dutch even on my own b-day, never even gave his own mother a good gift for her b-day and wanted to stay at home on the weekends, doing nothing instead of going out and spending quality time... not move out of the bedroom.

If a boyfriend is acting like that and is a total cheapskate (while his girlfriend isn't) but expecting great desserts and meals to be served isn't that asking too much?

I've become strict this year and developed boundaries. My mother confuses it for bitterness. I don't think so. Is what happened to me, the reason kind people are harder to find?

Emotional bullies:
At school, they take pleasure in humiliating you, have little to no empathy. They expect you to forgive and forget, act as if nothing happened when greeting you. This is the same as cleaning someone's mess and be ok with it.

Fake friends and family members.
I once forgave a female bully after a physical fight. I fell for her fake apology, fake tears and handshake. I didn't realize girls don't function the same way as guys. She faked it all for a year and gave me a fake phone number on my yearbook. Certain members in the family are only there for you during your success and good times but not during bad moments.

Takers:
The take and take... and the more kind you are... the more they take. They have no shame in how they're acting. However, if you need a favor all of the sudden they're busy, ghost you or are unavailable. They are online seeing your message and don't respond back. If they need a favor, they expect you to reply back quickly and help them.

Cheapskates:
This is different from saving money. They are the types that buy fancy, expensive things for themselves (it's always about them) but nothing for even their own mothers nor your own b-day. It's always a discount ticket or a cheap buffet, never spoiling you once at least. They are always broke but yet they're wearing expensive shoes, pretending to be wealthy. Or they invite you to their house just to watch a movie but real date.

Liars, lovebombers and scammers:
My ex boyfriend. He asked for money ($1,200) and never paid me back. He was a bum, vampire boyfriend too, lying about future plans and never progressing things. I learned he was really a sociopath that took pleasure in all that. He really wanted to drain all my fertile years for the sake of it. He lovebombed like crazy in the beginning and it was all lies.