Search Results: express your feelings

What's the most common situation? I did my best to give some options in the multiple choice, but feel free to tweak them or express your own in comments. I've closed it to pink only, so speak without fear of being attacked.

Here's What the Men Want/Say:

* Don't say "nothing" if it's not nothing.

* Just talk. Be direct, even blunt about it, if you have to. We'd rather know.

* "State clearly what they want, what their expectations are, what is upsetting them and not expect us to just know." @Miristheiss

* "I try to create a space for them to tell me what the problem is, but am often left guessing and have had to learn to let go. It's unfortunate that a friendship can be so easily ruined by what might have been a complete misunderstanding." @Insightfull

* "I would like to see women express their thoughts, opinions and emotions in the moment without fear of conflict. Men and women can both be guilty of not being vocal with one another before things reach an uncomfortable level which often results in one or both of the individuals involved feeling less appreciated or not respected. Conflict doesn't have to be elevated beyond expressing oneself." @automatic812

* "I think it would help tremendously if... women would kindly notify whenever any new seeds of conflict have sprouted in her head. That way, we can always nip our conflicts in the bud before they ever get the chance to flourish into a garden of quarrels and weaponized intimate details, which would inevitably expand enough to burst out of the woman's mouth at dangerous speeds if we were to ignore it long enough." @DonCachondo

* "Think and speak rationally. Do not retreat into feelings. Do not deflect..." @Dargil

* "Be direct and clear versus expecting guys to “just know” and read their minds or even worse, making us wait until you’re read to talk about something that affects both of us." @Dongtai

What would you like to see females do to better handle conflict?

Like they hug you constantly and grab you even from behind. They grab both your hands and hold them. They get right in your face with their face or stick their feet in your face. Girls that grab your head and put it in their boobs. They want to cuddle and sleep in bed together.

My friends in question were drunk (I was not) and I have known them since childhood. After not seeing them for a long time I felt very uncomfortable when they acted like this. I’m curious how other women feel about that type of close-friendship and physical touch. I have had a lot of female friends act this way with me, even one’s with boyfriends. They seem to have nothing but good intentions, and I play along with it but often end up feeling a little violated or disrespected. It seems like they think that’s how to express love with friends, but I feel like I want to reserve that type of touch/closeness for the person I’m in a romantic relationship with only.

I am setting boundaries and working on speaking up when I feel uncomfortable. I feel like my friends would like me more if I was more touchy-feeley but somehow it always feels too sexual to me. I sometimes worry that my girlfriends are into me in a romantic/sexual way. Thoughts?