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So this is a pretty long story. The reason I need this much advice is because I'm a chronic overthinker and have gotten hurt by misinterpreting "signs" I thought I was certain about.

My [M21] friend [F25] and I are mutual friends of my cousin [F30]. Three of us have been hanging out every weekend for the past four months. Girl has been to a family wedding, events, parties, etc. The cousin has told other cousins (who want the girl and I to date) that she doesn't want to lose a friend, but it's more that she's 30, hasn't had a boyfriend in years, plays around with guys, and just wants a sidekick to go through it with.

The girl started being very flirty at end of May. She has:
- Told me I have pretty eyes
- Major physical contact: grabbing my hand, resting her head on my shoulder (especially when I make her laugh), hugged me from behind, rubbed her whole body up against me
- Jokes or "jokes" with my parents being her in-laws
- Sent me a picture of a hot bathing suit for opinion on color
- Sent me a private snap of her in a sports bra and leggings before hitting the gym. She never private Snaps me.
- Has said "should we kiss?" a few times. Joking, but the last time was more subtle and serious.

Things didn't get heated until I started giving serious vibes back. The girl has said to a mutual friend, who's sort of my wingman, that I'm the "type of guy you marry, and take it slow with." I feel the same way about her. I don't to start something serious if someone else sees it as a game or just me being spiteful.

The problem is: some weeks the vibes are incredibly flirty and almost romantic, other weeks we're basically just friends. I can't really gauge what she wants and I want to make a move and escalate things but don't want to make her uncomfortable if she's not feeling it. Am I being "reeled in?"

Also, should I talk to my cousin first and state my intentions clearly, or should I wait until things sort of boil over, ending up in a serious moment or conversation?

I keep thinking about this. Are e-thots and whores bad, lazy entitled, pieces of sh*t for human beings because they exploit losers and simps for money and take advantage of them like a typical drug dealer? Or are they just taking advantage of a broken system CAUSED by losers and simps?

Say tomorrow you woke up in the body of a 5'10" super-attractive 9 (or 9.5) out of 10 woman. Easily the hottest woman you've seen in your life, only you're looking at your new self in a mirror.

This question is for the fellas: Would you take advantage of this system if you had the same physical resources as these women? Or would you keep your dignity and respect, regardless of what assets you had to exploit? I'm curious.

- If yes, can you really blame or talk down to e-thots and whores online, being you'd do the same thing?

- If no, what is it inside you that keeps you from using shortcuts in life, taking the easy way out, and not selling your ass (and dignity) for cheap cash?

I think you guys already know I wouldn't do it. Easy money today doesn't erase a lifetime of a tarnished and ruined public reputation that'll haunt you long after gravity catches up with your body.

Unwanted pregnancies, abortions, STD's, infidelity, broken marriages, divorces... There's lots of reasons why sex work is frowned upon in society (not even necessarily what I believe; just valid reasons).

I'm not even saying "all sex work is bad." I'm just saying, you can't have your cake and eat it too. If you're fine exchanging your respect from people in exchange for cash, then you do you. But you can't be a whore or worse, a lazy, half-assed, e-whore on OnlyFans and still expect people to respect you or take you seriously. This is the life you chose in exchange for a quick buck, while everyone else wasn't taking the easy way through life and doing sh*t their kids could actually be proud of them for, someday.