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I recently tripped and fell onto the ground (hard pavement). I now have my left knee bruised, but the worst is my right kneecap is currently injured. I am limping, and I cannot really walk much. Certain positions/movements also causes pain on my kneecap. My left wrist is also injured, and it is painful to move. I decided to wait for a few days to see before seeing a doctor.

My boyfriend and I don’t live together. But recently, he had been staying at my place like 2-3 weeks in a row. He goes back to his place maybe for a night, and he comes back to my place the next day. He had been barely seeing his friends. Maybe like once in two weeks.

We had plans to do something on the weekend that requires to walk. Most likely, won’t happen. But without negotiation, he went ahead and decided to meet up with a friend on the weekend. He also planned to go back to his place to do some housework, and to visit his parents. He was planning not to even come back for the night. I get it, he assumed we have to cancel because of my injuries.

Obviously, mobility is an issue for me. Im unable to do certain things. Also, especially because I have to walk my big dog. When he was telling me about his weekend plans, then he noticed I might need help with stuff (example walk my dog, cooking, and grocery shopping). I don’t even think I can drive. I am even having difficulty changing.

He insisted to me not to worry, he will figure something out.

Shouldn’t he just consider to come back to my place after seeing his buddy? Or maybe even cancel his plans with his friend until next week?

So far my dating life has been nonexistent and I feel somewhat behind and left out from what all of my peers around me are experiencing. A few guys have shown interest in me, but I was not interested in them. The guys that I did have interest in, did not have interest in me. I even shot my shot twice. The first time I got rejected, the second time the guy just played with my feelings and pretended to be interested in me, so I ended things. I wouldn't say I'm particularly off-putting. Maybe I am a little too confident, but I think I am in fairly good shape and am a good person. I exercise regularly, have plenty of friends that I think can attest to my positive attributes, like being funny and open minded, and have goals in life. I honestly don't think I am below any of the other girls who do have boyfriends and constant male attention, but obviously I don't consider myself to be above them. Will it be easier to get into a relationship once I leave high school? I am graduating this year. I know that I could have just dated one of the guys that showed prior interest in me, but I would never want to get into a relationship with someone who I have no attraction to "just because" and then leading them on (like what happened to me), I would rather have it be where we are mutually romantically interested in one another. I just don't get what these girls are doing to get swarmed by guys...

I came across this movie in which the description was that the main characters were learning to survive in a “post relationship” world. So I looked up what does post relationship mean and after diving deeper into that, I started looking at the topic of “relationship PTSD” I eventually landed on this article letting you know if you have relationship PTSD. There were a list of all the side effects one might expect from being hurt. I guess the key difference between regular sadness that your relationship ended and relationship PTSD is that the relationship in ITSELF brings the “victim” a great sense of paranoia. It all sounded so familiar. But the thing that stuck out to me the most in his article was that apparently, if you have relationship PTSD you can hardly remember being happy in your relationship. I can relate to that very much. When I look at other people being happy in there relationship I feel one of two things. Either I have this daunting concern that I am somehow different from women who are clearly more able to exist in a relationship-or I suspect that the love I witness isn’t real. I mostly see my last relationship as just one big painful memory held together by a few happy memories or moments. But when I actually stop to recall the times where I felt happy in my last relationship, I realize I wouldn’t have been happy AT ALL during the entire length of the relationship IF I knew the things that my ex boyfriend was concealing from me or even IF I knew the outcome that would come out of being in love with a man who cared so little about me as to ghost me after an entire year just to be with someone else. So in its entirety, the relationship seems like a fake to me. And it causes me to have a continued sense of paranoia even years later. And while I refuse to let my ex win any more and I think that I have recovered a lot of myself, I haven’t yet recovered the sense that when I meet a new guy I can accept that “this is reality” or “this is genuine.”