Are you required to give your boyfriend or girlfriend money each time you get paid?

[Anonymous]

So for the past month, due to the pandemic my hours have been cut at work and my boyfriend hasn’t worked at all due to being laid off and considering that regardless of my hours being cut, causing my checks to be lower than usual, I still have to chip in on bills at home. I still stay with my parents. I also still need essential things especially being a girl. Soap, tampons, hair products etc I still have to pay my phone bill. I am just now able to get my feet and hair done after weeks of not being able to because of my hours at work decreasing and I haven’t been able to get things for my boyfriend like I use to do since I knew he wasn’t working. I would buy him soap, deodorant, pay his phone bill etc but I haven’t been able to do that for him and still have money for things I need. He still stays with his mom as well. I’ve been to his home plenty of times to know he isn’t totally out of those things but he’s been yelling at me about how I’m quick to spend up all of my money and not make sure he’s straight. He also has a Court date coming up and the court is in the far suburbs. I assumed he was gonna find a way out there on his own. Since he knows I can’t afford to get him out there. I don’t drive. I take lyfts everywhere and I could afford the Lyfts for myself but now for the both of us. I never planned on giving him money to get out there for his court date because like I said I have things I need and that need to be taken care of as well. He got upset with me again and excused me of purposely spending up all my money so that I can’t help him out.

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*accused

[pierre7i]

Sorry, but IMHO you need to finish with this guy as fast as you can

Not only does he sounds self-entitled & totally selfish, but he is also very ungrateful for what you have done to help him up till now

Just imagine being married to him and having to be the main bread-winner, because he is likely to always lean on you financially

He needs to grow up and be more positive about finding work to help support himself beyond the financial support he gets not only from you but undoubtedly from his mom also

[cherryblossomXD]

He's not entitled to your hard earned money just because he's your boyfriend. He seems very selfish. You should definitely always take care of yourself first financially. You need to make sure you're stable and anything you have excess, he should be grateful for you helping him out. Even if you have excess money, you shouldn't feel obligated to give it to him when he demands it. You can help him out of the goodness of your own heart and not anyone coercing you to do so. If this keeps up, I think you should definitely talk to him about and if it doesn't work. Forget him. there's better men out there. Don't settle for less girl!

[Pearlangel]

UM, you are not his mother, even if he is unemployed. He is also NOT entitled to your money. Tell him to get a job, he sounds like a loser tbh. As a grown adult (man or woman) you shouldn't feel entitled to someone else's money.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I want tell you something I'm sure they could get a Constable who could take him to Court and bring him home from the hearing, He is sounding selfish to expect you to pay for him to take a Lyft or to pay for his bills, I could never do this to a girl?

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Thanks For Most Helpful Guy :)

[kikino]

No your not married or his/her parents.
Yes its a pandemic but that's not your responsibility.
Sorry if this sounds mean.

[Anonymous]

He needs to grow up and get his own money or have his parents help him, he isn’t your kid and doesn’t sound like a boyfriend, I never had a girlfriend do all that for me or except all that either. You’re not wrong at all

[Opinion Owner]

Accept I mean, you’re not even married so no you are not expected to give him anything

[dudeinohio]

It's his problem he has no money... he should have a full time job *searching for a job* You are not responsible for him in any way.

[JackofSpades]

Not unless you're living together no.

I know loosing his job has to suck but he kinda sounds like an ungrateful deadbeat.

[MountAverage]

Required? Are you insane? No seriously, are you insane?

[Anonymous]

If a woman demands money for being with you, then she is a whore literally... leave her body in a dumpster and move on.

[Gooblegobble]

You're dating a fucking bum, dude.

[Asker]

I care about him but when he gets upset at me taking caring of my own needs instead of his it makes me feel like he just uses me. Any boyfriend that cares about their girlfriend wouldn’t expect for her to use her money for him each time she gets paid or would understand her needs with her hard earned money comes first but instead he gets upset and questions my loyalty to him. That just seems odd for a guy who claims he loves me to do.

[Gooblegobble]

He loves having a girlfriend, that doesn't mean he loves his girlfriend. He likes a girl to take care of him and have sex with him. If he truly cared about you he'd be paying your bills, pandemic or not. He's immature, lazy, and sounds like he's constantly up to something. Dump his ass and find someone who treats you right.

[Anonymous]

No, they can screw off.

[Dave31989]

Nope

[In_Trance]

no..

[AdamPereira2]

yeah

[Anonymous]

HAHAHAHA LOL