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This question came to mind after enjoying and respecting a comment from a certain user on a certain post of mine, I found that their explanation was very thorough and wanted to see how many people agreed with such a statement.

Of course I wouldn't throw in the users name because I don't want them to get nuked by hate by the ones who disagree.

I myself feel it is statistically rational to believe the statement, based on how many guys confess and how many girls confess, it seems perfectly fair to come to this conclusion that they wouldn't approach and confess to a guy out of fear of rejection and rather prefer to wait for the guy to approach them.

I want to make it VERY CLEAR, I DON'T BELIEVE THIS IS THE BEHAVIOUR OF ALL FEMALES, BUT A MAJORITY OF FEMALES.


"Men don’t want to admit it, but they are intimidated by the possibility of being rejected by us."

Oh I freely admit it. The trick is not to allow one's self to be ruled by this.

The answer you give is not what many women I know in real life give. They admit to being equally intimidated by the prospect of rejection. And being passed over is *not* the same as being explicitly rejected. Society has it that women don't have to approach... and so they don't. Not out of a desire to challenge men, but out of a desire to avoid rejection. I've no reason to believe you or they are being dishonest.

Proper good quote to you, you replied and explained well and boy was that user getting a lot of hate by guys...

When I was 15, I had no interest in dating; I was late in reaching some of my social milestones. Then I was in college and my life felt rather unsettled. The idea of dating made me feel anxious. I was certain that a girl would get bored with me in five minutes. I felt unattractive and I also suffered from chronic depression.

I had all the excuses to not date but, at age 16, I started dating. It was sporadic at first but gradually became more regular until I was dating as much as the people around me. At age 65, I have probably had a first date with at least 200 different women and I am very comfortable with going to meet someone for a first date.

I'm not a superhuman. It didn't require a superheroic effort. I just told myself that if I was ever going to have a reasonably normal life and find a partner, I needed to suck it up and force myself to get past all the excuses.

I've asked several questions here recently about dating and I am surprised at the number of users in their late teens and twenties who have never been on a date, or they went on one date three years ago. So. . . this question's for you. Why haven't you dated? What's your excuse?