Search Results: what makes a good relationship trust

I joined GAG to learn more about women and relationships. There are many flaws I've discovered to how social media works and think they are not good long term. Question becomes, do others feel the same and can it be fixed?

Talking on phone or video provides information like tone, facial expressions (if face provided). Can really discuss in depth. It is obviously, more natural in how we communicate and more satisfying, or quickly ends the discussion, which is fine.

Texting/message threads has issues:
* Multi tasking... jumping back and forth between topics... this is not normal for the male brain at minimum. Women do better multi tasking, but I'd wonder if there are side effects we don't know.
* Addictive tendencies from the dopamine hit.. waiting for responses going back to check on responses. Makes us feel we are important, when we are not.. and results in withdrawal and pain symptoms
* Easy to mis communicate in writing, short answers, or be hurt by
* Leaves a false impression of a connection or "friend", when they could disappear and never hear from again. It's a hollow experience unless a greater offline is created.
* False sense of security... especially for women, but true of men who are gamed. People can put on a facade which is effectively violating trust. This results in hurt and distrust. Many have left GAG because of frauds sending pics, etc.. Many are not genuine... hiding behind a profile.
* Distractions of other media... like news where there is something I'm reading, but other "interesting" stories pop up.

Social media seems poisonous to the human soul. It makes us think we are being social while exercising some of the worst in our nature.

It's a time when we need GOOD social engagement. I don't think social media is it and may be counter productive.

What do you think? Do you think social media should be evolved into something else or it is ok as it is?

Oh boy what a good poll to ask. I haven't been on here for a while. I am sure a lot of you experienced individuals can chime in on this. I am at a loss for what to do next. This poll is kind of me ranting too (beware).

To make a long story short, I had asked the girl (now ex I guess) to show me her phone. I wanted to see if she was hiding anything. I know it's wrong of me to go through her phone. This was done in front of her and not done in secrecy. I don't think I know her phone's password to even pull this off. The thing is, when I started opening up her snapchat, she got real defensive quick and demanding that her phone be returned to her possession immediately. Oh big friggin red flag right there. I told her: "if you hiding something, I have to end this now." Oh what a big friggin fuss and endless crying that followed suit.

The thing I do not get is is that I had pulled off an incident like this, which happened months ago back in 2019. She reacted asking why I had to check her phone. She did get pissed at me initially, then calmed down, and then I was allowed to check her phone. Nothing. I tend to pull off these "random phone checks" every so often. Back then I didn't think to check her snapchat. I had only checked her Facebook messages and phone messages up until now. I don't think I checked her Instagram messages. For the times I had conducted these "random checks" I would get backlash from her (to be expected).

The kicker is that I had told her before that these phone checks were for a REASON and meant to rebuild the trust that she has damaged with me. I guess it's too late now?

She tarnished my trust over the course of this relationship and I just had enough. Inb4 people saying I should have left her if she exhibited signs of not being trustworthy. I get it.

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