There are some great women I meet here on GaG from time to time, who are actually intelligent and realistic, who have sex drives and sexual minds that match my own, and I can tell that they’re also serious about a real relationship and have learned things from their past relationships and they really do have a good heart. It’s sad that distance keeps me and them apart, but it’s so nice to meet women like this even if it is online, because unfortunately I don’t have the pleasure of meeting these kinds very often in my real life, especially here in the Greater Washington D.C. area where many flighty, arrogant, hook-up-type, and both college-educated and uneducated broads reside. Black, white, Asian, and Latina, it doesn't matter. Most of these women are not the ones for me and are not improving themselves for the better even if they think they are.
But my problem is not new and not just restricted to my life. Many women of today period are overly focused on men needing to be everything they want and almost never on how a woman should be cultivated for a decent man.
Arrogance...
Our society puts excessive focus on how a man should be for a woman and how he should treat her, when a hard truth is that a lot of women are not that deserving of kingly men and need to do a lot of learning about how to treat a man. This imbalance and ignorance is largely due to the fact that our culture excessively teaches women that they don’t need to cultivate themselves for a man or a relationship, constantly programs them with narcissistic defensive thinking that she is always a “queen,” always “deserves better,” is rarely the reason for why a relationship fails, and that if she is experiencing any bad luck or unfortunate situations with men - or even friends, co-workers, or other associations - it’s because they’re the problem and she never is.
Facebook, Instagram, and quotes you find on Google are even overflowing with all this self-serving vomit that women eat up daily. We have flooded women’s minds with dangerous lies and influence to make them believe that men or anyone else are the ones who are “toxic,” don’t “deserve her,” and should be given silence or total cut-off. We as a society are scared to ever tell women the truth that they indeed can be - and often are - the ones who need to work on themselves, the ones who need to see how they messed up in a relationship or messed up with a man, are the ones being immature, disrespectful, defiant, and having no regard for the other person.
When was the last time you ever heard a woman honestly say her relationship or marriage failed because of her mistakes or boldly admitting it was because she cheated?
Sexual lifestyles can cloud a woman's vision...
I’m not sure if I’d say most, but a lot of women of today are not actually relationship material, even if they think they are. And this is because many of these women are asking for “good men” or men who are serious about love, yet they’re still having casual sex with their male acquaintances, random associations, etc. and actually cannot really shake that life. These are the same women who want a man that will love them like a gentleman and care all about them, but then don’t want the very gentlemen they scorn because they are not attracted to them sexually.
Women actually have much more of a Madonna/whore complex than men, where some men are romantically attractive to them for a relationship but they can't really see themselves sleeping with them, and other men are sexually attractive to them but they can't see themselves seriously caring about or marrying the guy. Which all of this is highly due to women's sexual lifestyles. As I’ve talked about on GaG a few times, and whether most people really get it or believe it or not, sex alters women in ways that are not the same for men.
And contrary to how they might want you to see it, the truth is that many women don’t actually have a real relationship or real boyfriend. A lot of women are with men that they’re just having sex with. Not as a serious affectionate connection. Some women hope that it turns into a real relationship, or want people to think that’s what she has with the guy, but it usually isn’t and doesn’t end up as an actual loving, mature, committed relationship.
I get it that there's the occasional person you hook up with. I get it that sometimes there's that one person you're desperately horny about. Trust me. It happens to me too. But when you're living that life on the regular, you honestly can't expect to ever have a real relationship or expect to meet a man who gives a real damn about you.
Women have to take a look at themselves...
Are there men out there who are like women in these ways? Certainly. But the difference is that the majority of men are honest about their dirt, sexual choices, and sexual lifestyles - even the guys who are married will tell a woman he's trying to fuck that he's got a wife but "we're not really that happy." For most men, they either want a free lifestyle of being a single man who has casual sex with women they know or meet, or they want an actual girlfriend with all the romance. Few men are complaining about not being able to find good women while still hooking up with their acquaintances or women they have some kind of interaction with. They're either going to do one thing or the other.
So from a man’s perspective, women need improvement where they believe they don’t. How can you want or have a healthy relationship full of respect, love, or satisfaction when you only want all that for yourself? How can you ever work things out with men if you believe they’re the problem and you aren’t? How can you want men who you ultimately see are decent, relationship material yet you can’t let go of your lifestyle of desiring men who you feel are more sexually attractive, masculine, or perfect for pleasing you in bed?
I leave the answers for you to work out.
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