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In 1979, I dated Pat. She was my first love. She was a cute girl but she was extremely unstable. I didn't care because she said she loved me. . . and she was cute. I ignored the fact that she was very insincere and very financially dependent on men. She broke up with me to go back to her ex-husband. In 2003, I reunited with her. We married in 2005. Late in 2006, she had an affair with another female. Early in 2007, we were divorced. FML!

In 1980, I dated Evelyn. I thought I loved her but I think I just loved having sex with her. . . and she was even prettier than Pat. She was a user of men and I was one of her victims. She went back to one of her exes and I moved 4 hours away from her. Later, I tried to reunite and establish a LDR but all I got out of my efforts was a little bit more sex.

After Pat and I divorced, I dated Oksana. She is a Ukrainian cutie and a sincerely very nice woman. We dated for about 6 months, but she got laid off from her job and then went to live with her adult daughter about 4 hours away. In 2015, I visited her for Valentine’s Day. We decided that the distance was too much of a barrier. In 2017, I saw her again. She has devoted her life to taking care of her granddaughters and I would never be her highest priority. Who wants to be number two?

Now, my standard advice is to not try to reunite with an ex. The problems that you initially encountered with probably resurface and even quicker the second time around. Of course, under some circumstances, it is POSSIBLE to reunite with an ex and make it work, but the odds of that happening are rather low.

Have you ever broken up with a significant other and then reunited, or tried to reunite? What were your expectations? Did it work? After reuniting, did it again fail for the same reason? A different reason? What is your advice about reuniting with an ex?

PSo there's this woman who just has it out for me. She's never been rude, but it's really obvious that she doesn't like me, and makes a point of getting away from me as fast a possible, and I've barely even said anything to her. She's got that creepy friendly-because-I-have-to-be thing that HR Reps always seem to have going on. She tried to get away from me the first time we ever spoke, this woman clearly has some problem with me. We'll call her "L," and the girl I like "P."

Unfortunately, P is one of L's besties. They took a trip to Europe together, they hang out a lot, and I'm pretty sure that L brought P into the church group that I'm in... P really trusts L a lot. L makes it a point to pull P away from talking with me whenever possible, and it happened at a social tonight.

P and I were getting along really well at church today. Right as L came up to say that P was late for something, and she needed to go, I invited P out to the social

L and P were sitting on some chairs, not even talking, and so I asked P if she wanted to play this game that our group had set up. She looks at me, smiles, and says "I'm actually going to finish my drink, but you should play." Which is a pretty firm "piss off."

Now... I've been down this "her friend hates me" road before, and I've never had any luck... should I just move on or is it worth trying to befriend L so that she'll let me talk with P?