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So my (28f) best friend (28f) just gave birth to her first & possibly only child (yay!!!). She had a high risk pregnancy & she had a very difficult L&D, where she lost a lot of blood & thankfully she pulled through with medical intervention. Baby also had to had to have immediate medical intervention after the birth for a common issue with newborns. Baby had to be taken to Rainbows in the city about 40min away from the hospital she gave birth at.

She only wanted 2 people in the room with her, her husband (28m) & her mom (53f). Her husband left to go with the baby & her mom stayed with her for the first day. My friend got transferred to Rainbows to be with her baby & to continue the postpartum monitoring. Her husband had to leave their child to go with my friend because her mom didn't want to go with her during transport.

My friend's texting me about how she's alone in the hospital room, because the dad needs to be with the baby, that's in another wing, to talk to the doctors. I asked about her parents & she responded that they didn't want to come all the way out there.

I told her my toddler was sick, normal congestion/runny nose/cough for the season, & I didn't want to bring those germs to her or her newborn, or I would be there with her. She said it was okay & her husband is going back & forth between the wings to be with both of them.

I talked to my mom about my friend being left alone & she about lost it. She couldn't believe that her mom just left her alone in a hospital & wouldn't stay with her after she almost died. It doesn't help that my friend's mom told my mom that she wasn't excited about the baby until about a week before the baby was here.

My family took shifts with me while I was in the hospital during my postpartum monitoring & I had the easiest & fastest L&D! So it really broke my mom's heart that my friend's mom left her alone after she needed intervention.

So would you leave your child alone after giving birth? Even if they almost died?

My husband and I are divorcing after 5 years. 10 years together total. We have a 2 year old together and he doesn’t respect or value our marriage. He has been talking about divorce for a long time now and always try’s to reconcile as I do as well. I thought we were trying to fix things until he asked me for a divorce again. And I found out after he asked for a divorce (2 months prior) he messaged a coworker of mine behind my back flirting and trying to get a quickie out of her. At the time I was in Miami for 3 days having a procedure. When I came back this past October we were trying to get pregnant. Month later he wants a divorce. I also found out he downloaded dating apps on his phone during our marriage. So I’m so hurt that he is telling me now that he feels no connection etc, and is emotionally disconnected. And has been. But why waste my time these past 2 years.. if he could have it in him to get on dating apps and try to have sex with my coworker why did he continue a marriage he had no intention on taking seriously? Even after everything he did I am so hurt and depressed and can’t seem to process even the idea of letting go. Part of me wants to move back home to another state near my family with my toddler (which he agreed to me doing as long as he can have our son in the summers). I just can’t seem to let go, I feel like a failure, I’m still in love, and I’m so scared to just start over again. We moved to Florida away from everyone, built a home, started a life.