Am I being played?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been seeing this guy for about a year and a half just to hookup. He doesn’t know much about me and vice versa. We were seeing other people, but always came back to each other. It reached a point where I told him I can’t see him anymore bc I want something serious in general and he doesn’t. If he was willing to try then cool. I’ve said that multiple times, but it’s not changing in the way I’d expect. For our date, it was fun but I can’t tell if he was sticking around bc he knew after we’d have sex or if he enjoyed it. He pays even though I offer, and we do have good conversation. However, I told him I had fun and wanted to see him again soon, but he didn’t respond until I texted him again 30 min later asking if he did. I only did that bc he ALWAYS responds quick. He does mostly text first, but it’s 2-3 weeks after our last time hanging out. I do like him, but I can’t wait forever and will continue to go on dates. I just don’t know what to say or do. I’m insecure about the relationship bc of our history.

[teamvic]

I dont know if you're getting played by it does seem making you his shawty isn't really his top priority, if he taking weeks to reply to you after y'all hang out

Just let yourself explore and find someone else, if he tries to date you finally and you want it then go ahead but if you find someone else then his fault. If you really wanna know just stop giving for a bit, you'll see his intentions

Because right now you can't tell because he's getting pussy at the end of the date anyway so. Just stop letting him hit and if his desire to hit you up diminishes after like the 3rd or 4th then, I guess we know what he really wanted. But still, be open to meeting others

[Asker]

Sorry I meant to say he didn’t respond to my text right after I sent not 2 weeks lol but thank you for the advice!!

[DarkWinterNights]

Not to be rude, but you’re playing yourself. This started off as something casual and that’s what he categorized it as. You’re trying to change the terms of the deal but he’s just going along with it trying to keep things from changing. When men become interested in a woman we categorize you into one of three main categories. And only one is relationship focused. It’s very difficult to enter the relationship category when he categorized you as something else.

[ChicoFromThe305]

You said he didn't want anything serious tho, I don't understand why this is a question if you know he doesn't want anything serious, you are being played if he hasn't clarified it tho.