Am I being played?

[Anonymous]

I think it's my fault because we always just go to his place. He did try to bring me to restaurant and ask me what I want to do but I get insecure because I think he looks a lot better than me. You know how people treat good looking people. I had past relationships where I dated men more better looking than me and the waitress/waitors would always give them special treatment and kind of ignore me. Recently i've been feeling used because I just go to his place and then we have sex. I told him that but he says he doesn't have a lot of time, he works full time and he goes to the gym after and on the weekends, he meets with his uncles and cousins and friends. I think he's a family oriented person. I said I feel used and he said he only has time after work and gym and usually thats at night and he said he cannot make time. What do you think? but there are signs that he's serious about me like he will be possessive about me going outside and get jealous when I mention other guys. He also messages me almost everyday. And says i''m the only girl he has and the only girl on his mind. He didn't wish me on valentines day but later on said he bought me a present and he also wished me a happy birthhday when i reminded him. I swear he remembered he just pretended to forget. he did apologize and wished me happy ibrthday

[RespectfulGuy]

Reading your details, the question "What does she really want?" kept coming to my mind.

in my opinion, the next stage to this relationship is engagement and marriage. Do you want this?

If not, then have fun, and be prepared for it to end some day.

If yes, then talk to him and see if he wants.

Other than these, it's all about enjoying the relationship while it lasts.

The rest is communication.

[slatyb]

How exactly can you be "played" ? If you are getting what you want, you aren't being played. If you think you can trade sex for commitment, you are going to be disappointed. Have sex because you want to have sex. Then you can't be played.

[mommymommymommy]

If you're not going out on dates, and "just having sex', then according to current society, you're just "friends, with benefits", or as they might also say a "situationship", whatever the fuck that means

[Asker]

yeah true i dont know if he has feelings for me. cuz before we had sex i slept over 10 times without sex

[mommymommymommy]

Best thing to do, just ask. or tell him how you feel.
Do not waste his, or your time, and money

[Asker]

i asked a lo of times and he says he likes me and he does kiss and hug and stuff but it's like im not completely sure i feel like that

[mommymommymommy]

Then you would need to have that "talk" about what you are. We don't like to be confronted about it, but, if you need to have a clearly defined "relationship", tell him

[Asker]

i talked to him about it then he texted me at night more i dont know if he's trying to psis me off

[mommymommymommy]

Maybe, we'll see what happens. But this is how relationships work. Call and response. If there's no communication, there's no relationship

[Ben487]

It sounds like you might be. Hard to say for sure.