I have know this guy for so long and we went to university together, but country works in another country.
We have been Instagram friends for the past 8 years, but in the last 2 years he has been interacting more with me.
He started by watching all my Instagram stories, then moved to liking my posts. We started to talk for a bit and he was very friendly.
He would respond quickly and uses heaps of emojis haha 😂.
He continues to religiously watches all my stories as soon as I post them literally with the first 10 minutes, and if I post photos of myself alone or with others, he would like them soon after I post them too.
Am I paying too much attention to the Instagram activity and he is just being friendly, or is it a sign that he could be interested?
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Yes, you are paying far too much attention to stupid Instagram. Likes, follows, stories... all of that is worthless. Do you understand it's about a 30 second investment of time to look at story and like it? To think that means he is interested is absurd.
Guys think about an inch deep with social media. Girls think there is some agenda and meaning beyond the face value of literally everything. They often mistakenly think guys' thought process is the same, and it's the complete opposite.
Thanks for the reply!
Very well said and true, girls spend a lot of time over analysing the smallest thing which could be irrelevant at the end of the day.
It's just the way we are each wired. It's fascinating and frustrating all at once
Totally agree, it's so frustrating at least for me as a girl.
@Davidj123
Could you please explain how it's frustrating from your end?
I think for me it’s frustrating in the situation I explained above, because i can’t explain why someone who is not close suddenly decides to act close and do things that he wouldn’t normally do.
The overanalysing is frustrating because I am putting a possibility that there might be a chance where he might like me, but at the same time I don’t want to be carried away with a non-existant possibility. You can say I would be happy if he wants to take our online friendship into something more serious, as we are both at age where we don’t need to muck around and can easily aim for something long term.
But follows and likes are not acting closer. All of social media is a false reality. To give it the same value as irl interaction is foolish.
True, social media interaction from specific people are like a mirage. The closer you get, the more you realise it's been a big misunderstanding.
But what's life without some hope.