Why does he not follow me?

[Anonymous]

On Instagram this guy keeps liking my photos checking my Instagram story but doesn't follow me back. He follows other girls back and likes there photos but he won't follow me... which I don't know why... he likes my pictures and checks my page all the time. We are planning on meeting eachother in a couple of months and obviously having sex. He follows girls he doesn't know on there too. So I don't know why not me?

[SnapTsch]

don't let the social media stuff mess with you
it is a part of your life and not your life.
don't jump to any conclusion, be it good or bad, unless you meet him in person and are 300%sure about how he is in person.
Now in regards with the part about meeting him, maybe he is a really great guy maybe he isn't,
that's the thing about social media, you can pretend to be the person you aren't.
and with someone with such secretive persona whom you have met through social media, I don't think putting out on the first time you meet is a really good idea.
maybe he is really into you, maybe he's just faking it, I don't know
but don't hand it out to him on the first date, let him earn that through his actions and behaviour

[Asker]

Yea I get what your saying but we don't live in the same state so it's hard not to put out the first time I see him ( he vlogs also so I see him and how he acts)

[SnapTsch]

again, he vlogs for the views, doesn't mean he is the same person that he is portraying to be.
I am not judging you for it nor am I saying this to push you down, but you need to hold yourself in higher regards

it's not hard to not put out, think of it this way - would you rather put out on your first date and if it goes south , cry for the rest of the time
or
would you rather not put out on the first date and be glad about not put lying out if things do go wrong
it's your choice

[Asker]

If a man doesn't respect me if I have sex early then he's never gonna respect me even if I held off. It doesn't matter if I hold off and if it does then the man is dumb. Im a sexual person too. Why can men just go have sex and not be considered not respected? If and WHEN I have sex with him if he doesn't respect me afterwards then I don't respect him and he's considered "a slut" too. we never agreed to go on a date either we agreed to have sex. So that's what I want and that's what he wants. Who cares we are adults.

[SnapTsch]

no one is judging you for putting out on the first date, I would never judge based on that.
I said what I said because I didn't want you to regret it
thats all
my apologies

[martyfellow]

Do ou know him quite well? He sort of takes you for granted, but the other girls are new and unknown probably--he never met them face to face. So he spends more time getting to know them online.

[Asker]

I don't really know him at all tbh! That's the thing! We met online and have talked for awhile and want to meet eachother.

[martyfellow]

Maybe since you have plans, he doesn't pay as much attention to you online as he does to people he hasn't talked with so much.

[Asker]

Yea I would say that but when he constantly is going on my page to constantly get my attention by liking my photos he must be paying attention and watching me

[martyfellow]

He tries to be everywhere!

[NyomiMcClinton]

Maybe he thinks that he has already followed you. Or he maybe thinks that you will become obsessed with him and start lurking around on his page. I have had guys do that. They will send messages but won't friend request me. Red flag for me that they may be hiding something like a girlfriend or wife

[Asker]

I do go on his page like his photos then he goes on mine so he starts it will keep liking my photos then I go on his page like a photo and a day or two later he's back on my page lol I don't know what he's doing

[taleets]

do you follow him? some guys are weird about their following follow ratio

[Asker]

Yea I follow him. Yea I figure that lol he kinda is. BUT he follows random girls on there who he doesn't know and since he's checking my page everyday to like my photos he might as well follow ONE more person! It's weird lol I think he's doing it on purpose

[taleets]

are you into him? i think he likes your pics but not enough to the point where he wants to follow you

[Asker]

Yea I'm into him. I mean I would think that but he's following girls who post the exact photos. I do post a lot tho. But I think he's just doing it to get a rise out of me.

[taleets]

i honestly don't think so unless you guys really have a teasing type of relationship. but even then it would be more like he follows u then unfollows u just to piss you off. he knows he doesn't follow you. how many of your pics has he liked?

[Asker]

Lol I don't really know what we have he might not like me all to much but then again he wouldn't keep checking my page. Well around like 25 of my pictures but that's a estimate but I know it's a lot and mostly everytime I post. A story on my Instagram he checks it

[taleets]

he seems really weird to me.. i have had the same thing happen with guys i don't follow

[Asker]

Yea he kinda is he literally will keep liking my photos until I go and like one of his and he will stop for a couple of days and he's back to mass liking my photos

[taleets]

call him out on it

[leanbois]

maybe he just doesn't notice it? if he checks you ig everyday anyways, he doesn't really need to follow you

[Asker]

How would he not notice it when on Instagram it says to follow them? But yea true but it's just like he's basically doing it on purpose

[leanbois]

you think so? well, why don't you ask him nicely?

[Asker]

I would but don't wanna look crazy lmfao. I mean I wouldn't really care but I just notice him following girls he obviously doesn't know at all (just like me) and it's like wtf he must be either doing this to get a rise out of me or make me think of him

[leanbois]

yeah maybe he does it so you think about him a lot. pretty good trick I must say, it obviously works.
but I don't think you look crazy when you ask him like 'did you forget to follow my ig?' or something like that

[emerald77]

Maybe he doesn't realize he's not following you.

[Asker]

He does because when u go on Instagram if your not following someone it will say follow lol

[Asker]

And he literally checks my page he has to go out of his way.

[LaughingStick]

maybe it doesn't fit his theme

[Asker]

Theme as in?

[rajpotchh]

not so imp forget it