My husband and I are divorcing after 5 years. 10 years together total. We have a 2 year old together and he doesn’t respect or value our marriage. He has been talking about divorce for a long time now and always try’s to reconcile as I do as well. I thought we were trying to fix things until he asked me for a divorce again. And I found out after he asked for a divorce (2 months prior) he messaged a coworker of mine behind my back flirting and trying to get a quickie out of her. At the time I was in Miami for 3 days having a procedure. When I came back this past October we were trying to get pregnant. Month later he wants a divorce. I also found out he downloaded dating apps on his phone during our marriage. So I’m so hurt that he is telling me now that he feels no connection etc, and is emotionally disconnected. And has been. But why waste my time these past 2 years.. if he could have it in him to get on dating apps and try to have sex with my coworker why did he continue a marriage he had no intention on taking seriously? Even after everything he did I am so hurt and depressed and can’t seem to process even the idea of letting go. Part of me wants to move back home to another state near my family with my toddler (which he agreed to me doing as long as he can have our son in the summers). I just can’t seem to let go, I feel like a failure, I’m still in love, and I’m so scared to just start over again. We moved to Florida away from everyone, built a home, started a life.
sorry you’re going through this, chica
it’s the worst. the hindsight and the memories and realizing you were the only one in the relationship… it continues to hurt you after the divorce as well
i’ll tell you, it gets better with time
stay or leave, it doesn’t seem like you’ll heal, but you will
definitely quicker and easier if you get out of his world. start fresh. i left, but i didn’t move back with family. i wanted to be alone. i didn’t have a toddler, though, so you do you. leaving might be better for you but in either case, take it one day at a time and it’s okay to scream into a pillow
time will heal
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I would Advise until You get things Straightened Out with Custody and All, No Moving to another State. My Cousin tried that with Her Kids, and The Judge Told her TO GET BACK!!! Everything Legal until Then and Then... NP!!! xxoo
I moved away after my divorce and it was the best decision. Take a nice long vacation too. You need to reset.
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