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I'm reading a male GAGer comment which seem have heavy agreement by white members and i'll quote the main piece. "White women who never felt desired, wanted and loved by White men. White women who've been never hit on, flirted with or asked out by White men. Too many of those White women exist. Way too many. Especially blonde women. A White woman wants to be desired, wanted and loved. When there is no White man who does so, a White woman will inevitable settle down with someone else who does. And Black men are known to worship women, overly flirt with them, cat-call them, aggressively hit on them. "White women are "attracted" to Black men like White men are "attracted" to Asian women. Both White men and White women are dating down, and they know it. That is the truth. I mean, honestly, are there attractive Asian women out there? Absolutely. Are Asian women physically more attractive than White women. Absolutely not. Any White guy who says otherwise is justifying himself for not dating a White woman. The same is true for White women who date Black men. Women, more than anything else, want to be desired. Their entire self-esteem and self-image depends on how much they're valued, loved and desired by men. When White women don't feel desired and wanted by White men they will eventually date other men who make them feel desired. And as everyone knows, Black men are the most extroverted and flirty men out there. They cat-call, hit on, worship and ask out women more than anyone else." So to summarize from his statement: 1) When white people have bad luck in dating with other white people they go to minorities to feel desired, get sex, love and relationship and use them as fall backs. 2) Dating a minority is like a downgrade for a white person and they are actually settling.

Is it really so creepy to want your first sexual partner to be a virgin? For you to ideally want your first love to be a girl/guy who isn't just claiming you as yet another notch on their bedpost, or settling for you as a mere fall-back option after having played the field and got it on with an unknown number of other sexual partners first? What's so wrong about wanting your first time to be your partners' first time as well, and to share your first sexual experience with one another; what's wrong with wanting to share your first intimate sexual relationship with someone else for whom it'll be as meaningful and significant as it is for you? What's wrong with wanting to be the one and only partner of the person who you, in an ideal world, would want to be your one and only partner?

I don't want my first relationship to just be a flash in the pan, don't want to enter a relationship with the assumption that it's doomed to inherently fail just because the vast majority of first relationships fail. Why does it seem like everyone else has this mentality that your first partner's the one partner which has to be swept aside and discarded quickest of all? I want to make my first relationship my last, want to take the time to find someone who I could envision spending the rest of my life with and truly connect with that person, because true love- or at the very least, the idealized notion of it- appeals far, far more to me than the hedonistic pursuit of cheap, meaningless sex.

I want an emotionally fulfilling, stable and sustainable relationship, because I feel that it'd be more rewarding than the short-term highs which I'd get from pursuing sexual quickies with disposable, purely casual partners would provide. Is that so wrong? Is it really so shameful to desire a single healthy monogamous relationship, instead of desiring sex with as many partners as possible over the course of my life? And why is this deemed to be so "sad", "pitiful" and "pathetic"?