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So I've had a friend for about 5 years. we've had our differences, usually we work it out.

My "friend" has been living a train wreck of a life that she's kinda forced on herself.
I usually set aside the fact that I feel like she's made a bad decision and try to help her through it.

But for starters, I lost my virginity to my boyfriend when I was 19, three months into our relationship. We've now been together for 4 years and we JUST got engaged this past weekend.
When I told this friend that I'd had sex (she'd never done it before either), she got a little "cold". All she said was is "I just don't understand why it couldn't wait for marriage." And essentially kinda made me feel bad for not waiting.
I ignored her for a few weeks, then she messaged me about HER boyfriend was cheating on her pretty blatantly. He'd go WEEKS without even sending her a TEXT. Nothing at all. And then randomly send her pictures of some half naked woman. Just to hurt said friend. So I felt bad for her, tried to talk to her, and I told her she needed out of that relationship. I tried to put it delicately, since she was "so in love." And she then SHE stopped talking to me.
Fast forward like 2 weeks and she tells me she had sex with him so he would cheat. (He didn't stop.) Well now 3 years later, I'm engaged, have a great job, just living my best life really.
3 years later for her is, she has had a baby with her cheater boyfriend. Not married or engaged, neither of them has a job, they don't even live together. Still with their parents.

When I told her I was engaged though she just couldn't be happy. Her exact words were "well me and John could be married by now, but there's just no point since we knows left we love each other".
So admittedly I snapped and replied "well that's so great that you changed your mind after you shamed me for having sex then turned around and had a baby with a guy you don't even live with."
She Left me on read and honestly I have nothing to say to her. AITA?

I have made a post about something similar but i wanna see what you guys think.
I have been talking to this guy for a little over a month , we have things in common, although there were a couple hiccups in the beginning we worked them through. We both like each other and we would either video call every other day or send snap videos.. we now made it a thing to video call every weekend and when we do its between 1-3 hours. He calls this a relationship.

We haven't met yet due to the pandemic and he said he's willing to wait and that he's in this for the long haul/prize at the end. He would say things like : i want you, need you, i really like you, compliments me a lot. Asks me questions. He seems to be willing to talk about things and be mature about things. He said he feels the L word but wants to hold back from saying it.. he told me right now its a lust feeling and he knows its too soon to say it. We're both not talking to anyone and just talking/interested in each other