Hi! My ex and I dated for almost 3 years. In December she dumped me because of some issues that are very easy to work around (I don't feel like getting into exact details). I worked to try and improve myself.
In between the time of our breakup and now our interactions have been really good! Our conversation, emotional vulnerability with each other, physical affection have been the same (if not better) than when we were dating! She agrees. She's said twice"I don't really know what I want I need more time to think". A couple of times we've had emotional conversations she's even refused to comment on things that I've said that hint at us getting back together.
About a month ago she texted me and we talked about how she's gotten "serious with someone else". We both cried a lot. I tried to go no contact again (I went no contact shortly after our breakup to give myself some time to heal and to figure out my life and what I wanted from it) Unlike when I did no contact the first time she actually texted me after a couple of days and carried on a good and meaningful conversation.
She's gone out of her way to not mention this guy in any sense of the word (she's on vacation right now with him but she's yet to post a picture with him or anything like that) and anytime I ask about him she changes the subject. She has kissed me a few times and she even initiated physical intimacy (she never did that when we were dating).
I want to put my foot down and tell her I don't deserve second place. I can attach what I have so far of what I want to say. Any suggestions? Despite all of the heartbreak I still want to be somewhat kind to her in this conversation (Take the high road and all) or what I should do after? I want to make it clear what my worth is and give her a good idea about what she needs to do to be able to be in my life.
Any more details needed just let me know.
In between the time of our breakup and now our interactions have been really good! Our conversation, emotional vulnerability with each other, physical affection have been the same (if not better) than when we were dating! She agrees. She's said twice"I don't really know what I want I need more time to think". A couple of times we've had emotional conversations she's even refused to comment on things that I've said that hint at us getting back together.
About a month ago she texted me and we talked about how she's gotten "serious with someone else". We both cried a lot. I tried to go no contact again (I went no contact shortly after our breakup to give myself some time to heal and to figure out my life and what I wanted from it) Unlike when I did no contact the first time she actually texted me after a couple of days and carried on a good and meaningful conversation.
She's gone out of her way to not mention this guy in any sense of the word (she's on vacation right now with him but she's yet to post a picture with him or anything like that) and anytime I ask about him she changes the subject. She has kissed me a few times and she even initiated physical intimacy (she never did that when we were dating).
I want to put my foot down and tell her I don't deserve second place. I can attach what I have so far of what I want to say. Any suggestions? Despite all of the heartbreak I still want to be somewhat kind to her in this conversation (Take the high road and all) or what I should do after? I want to make it clear what my worth is and give her a good idea about what she needs to do to be able to be in my life.
Any more details needed just let me know.
