Search Results: is it love or infatuation

there is this girl i met on the internet, i know it sucks, i met her on a chat site which is why i hate myself even more. But she is intelligent, has a great sense of humour, those beautiful brown eyes (brown eyes are still shit and if u have them, apply for euthenasia but they are beautiful on her coz of her orbitals), that smile, that hair etc etc. I met her about a month back and it was all just fun talking but recently i think about her ALL THE TIME, i have gone crazy.

Also @elissadido, her maxilla is neutral with a balanced bite and has good orbital bone and high cheekbones, giving her the amazing positive tilt shape, just like you (you have ur analysis now :P)

It's no denying that the millennial generation tend to have an attitude of not wanting to work hard and everything must be immediate and easy to obtain. And this type of attitude tends to translate over into dating where people want that spark/click/chemistry immediately and attraction for the person right off the bat and become totally lovey dovey feeling for that person within a couple weeks to 1 month of knowing them.
And it's not surprising that people tend to jump into bed with this kind of mindset by the 3-4th date.
However, i cam across some comments by male gagers about building a relationship on this i'd like to share:

"relationship built on attraction. its shallow. love comes latter after you get to know a person. however infatuation can leave you blind to lots of things. id rather be with a women that i respect and fall in love later than to be with a women who gives me butterflies just to find out she's a shit person."

And this was true in old times. Many couples that lasted much longer than today both parties won't head over heels with each other on first meeting but learned to love and respect each other.

" Waste majority of times a man and a woman will meet and then build up a relationship from nothing. Sometimes you may even have the feeling that you would have to force yourself to like them. But love made from ground up is more stronger than something that came from a "spark."
By definition, a spark is something that goes out very quickly anyway."

"Well that spark sometimes happens later, some times its not a spark so much as a click (ie your indifferent and then suddenly your not)"

It does seem however, women are more culpable to end a relationship with a guy who is good on paper and has everything she is looking for her in a partner because he did not give her butterflies right off the bat.


Do you think this whole spark thing ruins the chance of having stable relationship?

We're both 18.

Recently confessed to my closest female friend that i like her. she's made it clear that she's not rejecting me, but doesn't want anything now because of her VERY recent break up. a couple times she's said to me "You said you vibed with (my previous ex) better" and i honestly dont recall ever saying that. then i thought about it and thought... maybe i did mention that. i was obsessed with my last ex and she was the first girl i said i love you to, but after the infatuation and break up ended i realized my ex wasn't all that great (and yes i did tell my best friend this later)

Anyway my best friend has brought it up a couple more times, like when i was talking to her about the idea of dating and i said to her "We vibe very well and we're very close". i was confused at her bringing it up a couple times more in similar related convos (it meaning me saying i got along with my ex better).

i finally asked her about it in person (previous times were over text) "Hey, why do you compare yourself to my ex alot?" and she stood there silent for a good 3 whole seconds and just said "i dont know, you just said to me one time you vibe with her better" and as i mentioned before i did explain to her how i realized my ex wasn't all that great

I am an Asian American (Korean descent) and I have a confession to make. I only like white women. As in women of European heritage. I could not fight it all these years, my infatuation with Caucasian women began when I was 11 and I was attracted to them.

I tried to diversify my interests and look at non-white women like Tyra Banks or Audrey Quock. But I labored in vain. I tried to lie to myself that all women are attractive. But I cannot hide it anymore. I only like white women and no women of other races, even my own. The truth has been revealed.

The thing is, most Korean American men prefer Asian women and I don't. I could never relate to most Asian women, since I'm an aspiring cyber security engineer and most of them are into things like pre-med. And I really don't like it when Asian women act all cutesy and flash the v-sign and things like that. Another thing is that most Asian women tend to be short around 5'2" and that's too tiny for me, since I am 6'2" (yes, that's rare for Korean descendants).

The reason why I prefer white women is not only because of how they look, but because of how they sound. They have such beautiful voices, whether they're white American, German, English, Italian, etc. I cannot expect the same vocal beauty from others (Asians, African Americans, Hispanics, etc.)

And on top of it all, I love European culture. If I could pick any language I want to speak, I choose German, since I loved Germany since high school and attempted the language in college. I have a poster of something written in German. Not to mention that I love eating at German restaurants and think the food is great. People tell me to embrace my Korean heritage, but I don't, since I don't really feel connection to it.

What do you think, guys and girls? Is it normal for a Korean American man to only like white women, even more than his own race?