I'm not a professional, I'm not very experienced, the only relationship I had was purely online and lasted only 8 months but my feelings were real and genuine.
These things helped me move on and turn the page, so maybe they can help other novices in relationships too.
1. Accept the fact that if you and your ex broke up, there must be a valid reason.
After the breakup, you may realize that there are many things you wouldn't have been OK with if you weren't blinded by love and infatuation. Maybe you fell in love with their personality but their personality isn't compatible with yours?
Remember when you used to say you would never date a person who does certain things for example? You may turn a blind eye to all these things you thought were instant deal breakers when you fall in love , but maybe these things are still annoying you deep down without you realizing it, thus making the relationship harder to survive.
2. Do not engage in a new a relationship straight away!
This is unfair to the new guy/girl but also unfair to yourself.
You have to clear your mind and clean your heart first. This is crucial if you don't want a rebound and if you genuinely want to build a strong relationship with someone new.
Then you can start hunting for love again ;) !
3. Accept that what you want is not always what you need.
4. Talk to other guys/ girls.
It might seem contradictory with the point number 2. But I'm not saying date a new guy/girl, just talk to them and get to know them. It will make you realize that your ex wasn't as special as you though he was, because many other guys/girls can be as attractive, and interesting if not more.
Trust the saying "there are plenty of fish in the sea".
"Sweetheart, you're amazing, you're perfect for me, I will never find someone like you, we're meant to be, I love you! :'( "
Bleeeh! Oh come oooon! You can find someone BETTER than them. Wake up! They're an ex for a reason!
5. Spend time with your family and friends
You can start by venting out, but after that, have a good laugh and talk about things other than relationships.
6. Watch funny shows/movies.
Even better if you're with friends/family!
7. Why would you want to be with someone who isn't willing to "burn the world for you"?
Thanks for the quote Berty @BertMacklinFBI
If your ex didn't put enough effort in the relationship, if he ignored you often, didn't invest time on you, it simply means he wasn't very in love. He might like you, but he's not loving you with his body and soul. Instead he's probably just infatuated with his eyes and D***.
He can easily get bored with you and move on once he finds someone else they're equally or more attracted to, you're just a PLAN B.
If he/she left or ignored you in a heartbeat, don't expect them to stick around when the real problems kick in.
8. Trust your instincts
If you feel that something is going wrong, trust your instincts. Ask questions and talk with your boyfriend. If he is always busy and isn't willing to put efforts into explaining why he's been acting strange and If he apologizes instantly just to avoid the talk, it means he doesn't want you/ like you enough to even take the time to explain to you why he's been acting strange. He's not willing to fix things and make it work.
WHY WOULD YOU WANT TO INVEST YOUR FEELINGS AND TIME ON SOMEONE WHO ISN'T WILLING TO DO THE SAME?
9. Stop being blinded by love and open your eyes/heart
During the time you spent being madly in love with your ex, you might have missed-out on many opportunities, guys/girls who were more willing to listen to you and talk to you than your ex did, people who possibly love you much more than he did.
If you found more comfort/relief with other people, especially from the opposite gender (or the same gender if you're not straight), then they're not the one for you.
10. Stop talking to them!
Cut them out completely, erase them from your life. It might be hard at first because you used to text/talk daily. But once you make it to the 2 weeks mark you will already find out that it's doable and you started forgetting about them.
11. Cry :'-(
Crying can do wonders when it comes to moving on, it cleans your heart from all the rage and sorrow that the break up caused. But don't go overboard! It's okay and it's good to cry the first few days. But after one week you should STOP (a week is already too much in my opinion).
I don't think you would need more than a week anyways. A few days are enough to detox the heart if you cry your tears out.
12. TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF.
I'm glad I'm not like this, but many of my friends are. Once they break up they let themselves go , start eating junk food, they stay in bed crying looking like a mess...
NO, JUST NO! Don't allow an ex to make you miserable. Look good, workout, eat healthy, have fun!
13. Chances are he/she doesn't even care, so WHY WOULD YOU?
By crying over what happened you're only postponing things, because YOU WILL MOVE ON.
I'm not saying that you shouldn't cry at all (point 11), but after the few first days you already let your feelings out.
So now, stop losing your tears over an EX!
Stop delaying things! And move on already. Look go, go out, and HAVE FUN =))