Search Results: should i give him another chance

Sorry this is long. Basically he messaged me on Okcupid, says that I’m really beautiful, we’re in each other’s age range (I’m 36, he’s 41 and says he wants a girl my age) and supposedly I have everything he was looking for in a woman. The problem was I really wasn’t feeling any interest for him after reading his profile, and he lived to far away from me (I’m on Long Island, he’s in NYC and kinda want someone who is also on the island that I don’t have to commute to date). I sent him a polite message (that’s very sweet of you but I don’t think we’d be a good match). He sends me two long paragraphs in return saying he doesn’t understand, that I should give him a chance, that I might change my mind once I get to know him, that I’m already 36 and not going to get many more chances then begs me to reconsider because he wants to leave the city and saw getting involved with someone like me as the perfect escape from New York, that he wanted us to pick out our future hometown together and said that he was really shocked because I sounded so nice in my profile. I apologized again, told him not to send me anymore messages and blocked him. So tonight (about three weeks later), I get another message from him (from another account he created) telling me he still really wants to get to know me, he still wants me to get to know him then gives me his phone number and begs me to call him because we’re both on that site looking for partners and he could be the “perfect partner for me but I don’t know it because I’m not giving him a chance”. I told him to stop messaging me and leave me alone. I was with two friends when I got this message. One told me that I did the right thing because he sounded really desperate and the other friend told me that I’m not getting any younger (which I’m not) and he sounds really interested. She says I should overlook the differences and the distance and date him, so now I’m feeling really bad. What do you all think?

Met a guy we became close friends and confidants, we were open with almost everything he had a girlfriend I had a boyfriend and as a result we remained just friends for 3 of his relationships

We were friends for 3 years before we started dating.. we’ve been together 2 years now and in my head everything has been perfect and that’s what scared me

Together for 2 years and we’ve had no fights or real arguments we get along extremely well so I’ve had no idea what he’s like during argument-day
He’s the quiet responsible type who doesn’t really have a social life outside of our relationship

He got a job in another state and we’ve agreed he’d work there 1 year. Even being far away we were in constant contact, he always sent me money and we took trips together when he got time off

A female facebooked me telling me they’ve been in a relationship in that state since he went there and she had no idea about me

After being caught he’s been apologizing since and trying to make it up to me saying it was the pressure and distance, bear in mind I’m giving him such a hard time but I always need my questions answered to understand why

Besides the cheating i never felt neglected while he was there I’m so torn and don’t know what to do

Since the day the woman messaged me she hasn’t done so anymore. She approached me saying “OUR boyfriend is a cheater” and she seems hurt that he wants to make it work with me and not her. He says he’s completely cut contact with her and I believe it because I believe she would come and tell me as she seems to want to be in competition with me

Should I give him another chance or is he going to do it again? He says he will be coming home for good when he is able to travel again.