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I would like to hear your stories and on why you have wished for it.

I do prefer disowning the person and him moving out more than death to be honest, but I can see both the advantages and disadvantages with death. I lives at home with my parents and they took in a baby boy before I was born because of no one else could take care of him. His personality has always annoyed me. I do understand if people are shy and doesn't speak in public or to strangers, but this boy barely speak to his "family" and yet he's living with us. I've no plan to moving out at first because of I wants to save money to finish my education. He's sucking out money, food etc. from my parents, yet he refuse to talk and is rude. Sometimes he's ignoring us, says mean things and isolate himself from my family. He may talk to friends a few times. He hasn't anxiety or any forms of diagnoses. He has always been like this from he was little and he's two years older than me. Luckily a few nice people in the local grocery store offered him a job, so now he has something to do since he doesn't do much at home. When I tried to be nice to him, having a simple normal conversation etc. he tries to avoid it. He's not always grateful to my parents either. He lived 6 months another place to study, but he didn't enjoy it and dropped out of school. I didn't miss him a second, but my parents loves him a lot. I was happy not having to see his impolite behavior. I wished he moved out again, but the advantage him being dead is that I don't need to see a stranger in my house treating my parents like shit. But my parents would be heartbroken, so it's best he's alive although I wouldn't miss him if he didn't change himself. My parents thinks he would grow up one day. Perhaps in his 40s. There's still hope they says.

If you said that you have never gotten angry at a partner, you've either never had a partner or it's a brand new experience for you. If you are in a relationship long enough to get past the honeymoon phase, you will experience conflicts and anger. It's inevitable. The test of a good relationship is not WHETHER you have conflicts but HOW you resolve them.

Sometimes, couples argue about silly things: "Why did you move the cheese?" or "Why do you always leave the lid up on the toilet?" That usually means there is a larger issue that is not being addressed and the anger is coming out "sideways" but sometimes, your partner may have just had a bad day at the office and the least little aggravation can set them off at home.

When arguments happen near bedtime, it isn't always possible to get it resolved before going to sleep. When I get in bed with my girlfriend and the harsh feelings are still on the surface, she will usually lie on her side, facing away from me. I move over so I am behind her, spooned with her, I put my arm around her, and I whisper in her ear, "Even when I'm angry, I still love you and I'm glad you're in my life. We'll get this resolved tomorrow morning, we'll still be in love with each other, and we'll have a better day. I love you. Goodnight."

The purpose of saying this is not to sweep the conflict under the rug. If it is a significant issue, it needs to be addressed. But I know that my girlfriend has a bit of insecurity and she panics when we have a conflict. She thinks that we are going to break up and she starts -internally - to freak out about being alone, moving out, etc. I want to put her fears to rest and make her feel better so she can go to sleep. Every time this happens, it helps her to feel more secure about us, and that makes me feel good.

Have you ever done this?

Imagine you find your perfect match, the ideal partner, the only thing that's unusual about him is where and how he lives. He has bought a caravan or a holiday home (or even an earth ship), placed some solar panels on the roof and collects rain water. He is completely off-grid, the cooker, the heating and the shower are all electric and he uses rain water for washing and showering, even filters and distils it for drinking. Therefore there is no gas, electric, water or any other bills. Let's say he even grows his own all year round, and there are no shopping bills.

Would you consider moving in with him? Obviously neither of you needs a job as you have nothing to pay for. You would be free to do whatever you want. You would have to decide how you want to spend the rest of your life.

What will you be doing? Staying home all day? Volunteering? Taking part in community projects? Pursue a hobby full time? Something else?