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5 Ways To Handle Toxic People

Hi guys and girls. This myTake was inspired from the feedback on "6 Reasons You Attract Toxic People". I received a lot of different questions about how to avoid them. My favorite question was " So you're saying being ourselves and having goals attracts toxic people. So what? Do we stop having goals" You never have to change who you are because of toxic people but you will have to create boundaries and rules around those relationships to successfully protect your energy and aura. In this myTake I will be discussing five ways to handle toxic people. Take a look 🧐

First Way: Setting Boundaries and rules around the relationship/friendship

Please recite one affirmation a day to help rid yourself of toxic energy 💚
Please recite one affirmation a day to help rid yourself of toxic energy 💚

Once you have identified that someone is toxic you need to make a healthy boundary. (I will definitely be making a myTake to help everyone identify who toxic people are.) So, what is considered a "healthy boundary"? A healthy boundary is one that is clear and lays out rules, guidelines, or limits to reasonably identify permissible behaviors. And the boundary will also identify how someone will act when that boundary has been crossed. So for example, let's say you and your friends hang out all the time but you can not hang out as much anymore because you started working a new job or started a new sport. You just don't have the time anymore and you tell your friends that you apologise for not being more available. You let them know you are available on the weekends to hang out and that's it and if something changes you will let them know. In this example, everyone's needs are being met and the limits have been established. So now you can tell who is crossing this boundary a lot easier. Moving on!!!!!!!!! Takes a breath.


Second Way: Self Awareness!!!! Be Open And Honest With Yourself.

How many chances have you given without consequences?
How many chances have you given without consequences?
Do you know who the toxic person is and allow them to constantly victimize you?
Do you know who the toxic person is and allow them to constantly victimize you?

Are you aware that you have toxic people in your life and you just allow that behavior to continue to avoid conflict? Do you ever find yourself upset or exhausted after interacting with the toxic individual and you do nothing and say nothing in the moment? Or do you find yourself constantly victimized by the same person over and over again and instead of addressing it you prefer to remain the victim? If any of these resonate with you then it is time to start taking some accountability. "Drama doesn't just walk into your life you either create it, invite it, or you associate with people who love to bring it into your life" If you are guilty of any of these things (cough cough like me😇) no worries it's never too late to change your ways.


Third Way: ASK FOR HELP!!!!!!

Speak Up!!!!
Speak Up!!!!

What happens when you have done everything you can to place boundaries and demand for your needs to be met and they are ignored or dismissed? What happens if this person is someone you want to keep in your life and you just want them to change their toxic ways? You can ask for professional help and counseling. It is very useful when both parties want to continue the relationship. In therapy or counseling you will have a third party to identify exactly who is toxic and what dynamics need to be adjusted to ensure a long, healthy relationship.

Fourth Way: Take A Break.

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A "Break" can feel like grief

I am not saying end the relationship, ghost this person, or give them the silent treatment. During this break you will still be in contact with this toxic person but it will be a whole lot less. Overall exposure needs to be limited. If you have tried out some of the different ways listed above and they are still unresponsive to your efforts you and that person needs a break. This break allows both parties to step back and see if the relationship is still worth saving. "The Break" sucks. It can almost put you into grieving status but it is a necessary evil. Now during this break it's critical to be mindful. How does it feel to not interact with this individual often? Give it an emotion with one word. Do you feel joy, resentment, anger, hope, shame, guilt, or hopelessness? Once you name the emotion it will make whichever decision you make a lot easier.

Fifth Way: Walk Away.

Saying goodbye is never easy 💔
Saying goodbye is never easy 💔

This is the saddest way which is why I saved it for last. Walking away always seems so final. Life is short and you want to be surrounded by people who you love regardless of their levels of toxicity. But if you have exhausted all your efforts and you no longer have the energy to maintain the relationship then it's time to walk away. You are responsible for protecting your energy and happiness. "Sometimes walking away has nothing to do with weakness, and everything to do with strength. "We walk away not because we want others to realize our worth and value, but because we finally realize our own."

Cry if you need to
Cry if you need to
Dealing with toxic people is thirsty work
Dealing with toxic people is thirsty work

Thank you guys for stopping by to read and give feedback. Please feel free to ask questions or suggest any follow up myTakes you might be interested in reading. I love reading everyone's stories!!!!! (so don't be shy lol) I had so much fun writing these and I can only hope this is useful information for someone. Disclaimer:I do not own these images. Or profit from them. The artists are extremely talented. So give them a follow or a like. I could only dream to make illustrations this beautiful. Have a wonderful COLORFUL day 🧡💛💚💙💜

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  • sageevalentine

    100% agree. Recently I've been getting a lot of shit in school, and people are talking behind my back a lot because I 'dumped' a close friend of mine. I felt she was a toxic friend, overly competitive, self-destructive and incredibly pessimistic. I tried to help her, but couldn't deal with her anymore.

    We truly are the snowflake generation, everyone else in the year group is talking about how I have no integrity and I don't look out for my friends. I personally don't understand why I should be responsible my friend's mental health when it's clearly having a negative imapact on me too. Society is weird.

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  • coolbreeze

    Very interesting read.

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  • Liam_Hayden

    Thank you for this. I personally have no problem with cutting out toxic people, but it helps to be reminded that others do have issues with it.

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    • Yay!!! Thanks for the feedback and reading ♥️♥️♥️

  • StingRayxoxo

    Setting boundaries for yourself is so incredibly important. I'm trying to instill this in my daughter and my students.

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  • Juxtapose

    I just don't care what they have to say because why would I care what an imbecile has to say?

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  • AdithyaR

    Very well written, thanks for the insight.
    I have dealt with a few toxic people in my life.
    One particular got pretty messy.

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  • Muhammad1999

    Or you can get rid of them by getting a gun and shot them right in the head , lol

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  • duhuijiun

    If you encounter a poisonous person, please leave and play a little less.

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  • BlackRoseFairy

    Great take!

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    • Thanks for reading ❤️❤️❤️

    • You know, you are right in what you say. I have experienced a toxic relationship before and the hardest part was to walk away. The only thing I would add is to equip yourself with a shield of ignorance. Because toxic people won't stop with you leaving. They will still try to bring you down. In this case ignorance is bliss...

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  • This is great

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  • derek2017

    really nice Mytake!

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    • Thanks so much for your feedback ♥️😍 and thanks for reading

  • FannyDamager

    What makes one 'toxic'?

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    • I will be making a mytake covering this soon. Thanks so much for reading and leaving feedback 💙😇

    • You're most welcome, it was interesting and I largely agree with your recommendations. I do however suspect 'toxic people' are simply people who have learned sub-optimal ways of interacting with others based on their previous experiences. Poor lambs, really!

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  • Very good points

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    • Thanks for reading and leaving feedback. It's gladly appreciated💜💙💛🧡

  • Athína98

    I wash my hands of them and walk away.

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    • Smart 👍

    • Athína98

      Plus then become to old to fast dealing with it.

    • Lol 😂🤣 Thanks for leaving feedback

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  • TallMaria90

    Not having them in my life I don’t need it.

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