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Married, have a 1 year old, haven't head any inteemit moments for over a year, no alone times, no couple times. Out comes a girl from a complicated past, she is crazy about me but totally understands, and keeps her distance. She is also married with an year old and in a complicated relation. Both knows there is no way something serious will work. So end up being friends. Question is how is this going to turn out. What what are the chances that the marriage will or might turn around.

So over the holiday my mother and I were talking and dating came up. I'm a virgin who never dated and not concerned about it right now because I'm focusing on myself. Since this was a private conversation and I'm close to my mother, I came out and told her that I only want to date another virgin and I'm willing to wait until marriage. She didn't go crazy or anything, but she tried to convince me otherwise, asked me even if she only had sex 1 time before you'd still wouldn't date her, and I said no I wouldn't. We ended up debating back and forth and eventually I just said "I chose to save myself for someone special and I just ask for the same in return", but what she said next very much insulted me. She said "well a woman only has sex when she's in love, and sometimes her feelings were't right, and you should be more considerate and accept it." It sounded like she was telling me to just give myself away regardless of what I want. Just give myself to whoever like a charity food stamp. I know she didn't mean it and was trying to help, but I couldn't help but to feel offended. I didn't bring this up because I still respect my mother, but this is what her dating and sex life was.

She lost her virginity at 13.
Dated a guy in his mid 20's when she was 15.
Got pregnant by said guy and had my sister at 16 then my brother at 21.
We still don't know who my biological father is because she was hooking up with random guys while living at some old guy's house, and that old guy might even be my father because she was sleeping with him too.
She's been married 3 times and didn't have children with any of the men she married.

Both my older brother and sister had their first child at 17. My sister is an overweight single mother in her mid 30s and my brother in being divorced for cheating on his wife and is running off with a girl he already got pregnant, and his child support looks like a shopping list.

If I'm going to get into a relationship, I want something that's special.

I have a different perspective on love than most people. I see love in more of a scientific sense. I see love as a source of personal pleasure and natural biology, when we look for love we seek mainly two things, pleasure and procreation. When we love someone we are flooded with "feel good hormones" such as oxytocin, dopamine and serotonin and we naturally seek pleasure as humans just like how you listen to your favorite song and eat your favorite food you get pleasure from that. We also seek love in order to procreate and keep the human population flourishing, i. e. sex. I probably left some facts out but you probably got the gist of it by now. Some of you may think it's bland and dull, some of you might agree, some of you might find it cute in a nerdy way.

BEFORE YOU GET THE WRONG IDEA OF ME

Do I believe in love? Yes, I just don't believe in the whimsical fantasy of it portrayed in movies and fairy tales on how there's destiny and there's that "one" out there.

Do I think love is all about sex? Mostly, but it doesn't have to be. I'm actually waiting until marriage to have sex and populating the world isn't important anymore. The reason I say mostly is because if sex wasn't a thing then relationships wouldn't be a thing either, there would be no gender and no real reason to be in relationships and we would have friends instead.