I know I’m not perfect but I also know I can be picky. I’m just gonna keep it real and try not to be Rude with it:
When it comes to Looks, I personally dont find it attractive when the nose is Big/Crooked/Bent/Piggish. Like for example, Taylor Lautner and Michael B Jordan are handsome overall but I do not like their noses. I also don’t like when the hair is Long/Balding/Completely Bald/Man Buns, the facial hair is Pedostache or a Beard, the tummy shape is Beer Belly/Huge Gut/Rib Cage, the chest is Completely Flat/Untoned, the voice sounds Feminine/Real Deep/High-Pitched, the Eyebrows are Thin/No Arch, the nails are Dark/Bitten so short they bleed, the Hands feel Slimy/Rough, the lips So Thin that you can't see a top lip or So Thick That They Look Like They’ll Swallow Me Whole, the Teeth are So Crooked that they Look Like Raging Waters, the Age Gap is Greater than 3 Years and Height is Under 5’6 or Over 6’4.
When it comes to Personality, I lose attraction if he doesn't believe in God, Acts cocky, Cusses a lot, Uses a lot of sarcasm, Tries to push his Veganism on me, Acts selfish often, Speaks very blunt, Has had over 5 sexual partners or is not willing to wait at least 6 months for sex, Often badmouths his mom, is Obsessed with working out, doesn't want kids or already Has 2+ kids, doesn't believe in marriage, doesn't like rap music, Is obsessed with politics, Smokes ANYTHING, Drinks often, and is Obsessed with Traveling all the time (mainly outside the country).
When it comes to Dress Style, I cringe if he wears Skinny Jeans, Suit/Tie (outside of work/church), Shirts long enough to be a dress, Cardigan Sweaters, Shoes like clarks/loafers/crocs/wallabees, Thongs/TidyWhities/Speedos, Half Crop Tops, and Two earrings or THE WORST TREND EVER which is the long cross earrings.
Believe it or not, there are guys out there who dont have a majority of these features and I love that. #FeelFreeToList yours #FlawsAndAll
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For those who can't tell, what i listed above is what i find UNATTRACTIVE... not attractive
Share a list of some physical features, personality traits, and dress styles that you WOULD NOT FIND ATTRACTIVE in your ideal partner?
I'm not in a great mood today so that will probably infect my answer somewhat. Apologies in advance:
Physical features: - I'm not attracted to girls with short or medium-length hair. Anything shorter than bra-strap length is too short for me. If I had to pick one physical deal breaker. Hair length would be it. The remaing physical features are just preferences: - I'm attracted to the "innocent" look. I'm not attracted to the sultry or arrogant/cocky/cheeky look. Resting bitch face does not conceal/exaggerate these looks. You can have resting bitch face and I can still see the "innocent" look. - Not a fan of big lips (why are girls obsessed with this hideous duck face pose in pictures?), big breasts, or big butts. An "average" body is best in my opinion. - A soft, feminine voice (to match the innocent look) is preferred. - People like wide smiles with teeth or laughing smiles. I like shy or faint smiles more.
Personality: The non-negotiables; - Arrogance is the mother of all deal breakers. No amount of physical beauty or otherwise perfect personality will cancel out the power of arrogance to completely turn me off. It takes many forms but is most repulsive in cases of hypocrisy and exceptionalism. - Lack of consideration. This is tied to arrogance (most non-negotiables are): The belief that my opinions/feelings are secondary to her happiness (I believe in the concept of mutual happiness, not "love me no matter what I do"). The belief that she can do whatever she wants and I'm supposed to be happy about it (or happy for her) no matter what. The can of worms this opens is an essay on its own. - Apathy: A lack of attention, affection, interest, and/or investment. I don't get why most people hate clingyness. It's much closer to being a requirement for me than a deal breaker. - Mystery. I like total openness; no secrets, no surprises. I've never understood the attraction of "mystery". Mind games, dishonesty, and a lack of sincerity are completely unacceptable. - Attention-seeking (from other people): Posting/sharing skimpy pictures and selfies on social media. Sourcing for followers on social media. Trashy outfit style. Girls who can't imagine spending a day or two at home. Girls who can't ignore their phones for up to two hours. Just no. - A high body count (more than 3 previous partners). I'd prefer a virgin, but it's not a deal breaker. No to girls that hook-up, do one-night-stands, and/or friends-with-benefits.
The Tolerables: - In a direct contrast to you; I lose attraction for girls that have a "God first" mindset. Being religious is all fine and good (and not a deal breaker on its own) but I have no interest in risking being with a girl who's so devoted to God that she'd break up with me just because her pastor told her to. - Girls who want more than one child, and as soon as possible (less than a year after marriage) are a turn-off. They make me feel as nothing more than a means to an end. - Spontaneous, "live in the moment" people are a turn-off. The consequences of our choices and actions are very important. I need my partner to understand this. - I dislike sarcasm (yeah I said it). Why speaking it fluently is seen as a good thing is something I don't understand. Also, someone who can't find their own humour yet "loves to laugh" (who basically expects me to be a clown/comedian for her); Pass. - Thinks video games are childish yet proclaims "binging series on Netflix" is one of her hobbies. I love video games. I'm never giving them up.
The "Soft" Deal breakers (They go without saying): - Does drugs (including Marijuana). - "My pet will be more important than you". - Doesn't want to get married at some point. - Doesn't want to live together at some point (as a couple). - Works a job that has her show her body to strangers often or at some point in time: porn, stripping, etc. - Drinks to the point of intoxication. - Needs a cigarette every hour.
I like when a guy smirks too but i often smile big because i have the cheeks for it. I hate the kylie jenner plumper duck lip makeup. Yea I also like clingyness. I also prefer a guy whos been with 0-3 people but more than 6 is an absolute dealbreaker. Real talk, i dont even listen to my pastor 😂 its bad but its true. I just know I believe in God and i go to church maybe twice a month. I want kids more than anything so I def want to try for a baby on honeymoon night. However i want my kids spaced like 2 years apart. And im not trying to have kids after age 31. I haaaate spontaneous people. Im routine and a planner. I hate sarcasm. I do feel video games should be toned down at a certain age (25+) and a lot of people i know agree but its whatever. I dont binge and i dont have netflix but I know you’d hate how i love watching competitive shows and reality shows 😂 I dont support drugs, am afraid of pets, dont drink, and i wouldn't live with someone until at least engaged 🤷♀️ Overall very good list
Thanks. It's interesting; I grew up in a country where "God first" pretty much meant that you're devoted enough to go to church everyday. So now, when I hear "God first", I generally assume the person goes to church everyday and listens more to their pastor than anyone else. I once read a story in which this sort of thing happened (pastor told wife that God willed she divorce her husband, and she did). It was appalling. Especially since they had kids, one of whom became a minister, and still completely ignored his Dad. I keep remembering that I have this problem; overestimating people's statements (as well as things and people in general). It's why my assumption of people who are "God first" seems exaggerated. Same thing happens for whenever I see/hear "I love to travel"; I assume it means the person makes a 3-4 day international trip once or twice a month. It's a very useful habit for work though so I can't bring myself to kick it. I actually have a question for people who want kids. I'm really curious how they plan to solve for the problems that make me not want them. Maybe I'll ask you as well (when I'm done constructing the question). I actually don't have a problem with binging. I just find it sort of hypocritical when people who do binge also call video games childish or a waste of time. Video games engage/challenge various thought processes, while watching TV is just... well... looking at images on screen. Reality and competitive shows are also not a problem for me. My only caveat is when people try to make it seem like their preferred form of entertainment is more legitimate than mine (e. g. TV vs. Video games). They're both entertainment in the end. I personally don't mind pets. I just don't like to imagine that my partner would hesitate between choosing to save me rather than her pet if both our lives were in danger.
Something I forgot to add to the "Tolerables" section of my list: Tattoos and piercings (beyond ear piercings). Neither are things I like, or find attractive. I can live with someone who has them, but would much prefer someone who didn't.
By the way: I'm very amused at your focus on noses. I don't think I've met anyone who cares very much :D
Yea ill answer the kid question. People who mention travel usually wanna travel multiples times a year tho and i dont. You can't always trust the pastors cause they steal from the churches sometimes. I dont think video games are a waste of time but i do see it as more a kid/teen thing. Im not sayin g the person has to quit fully but i get annoyed when someone like my ex for example would just sit around getting fat playing games for 5+ hours a day and not even wanna exercise but maybe once every few months. I think gaming maybe 2 days a week is better. Yea i only like ear and eyebrow piercings, nothing more. And noses matter because i would pray my kid gets a nice shaped one. I dont like my nose much so its up to their dad to save them 😂 and merry Christmas to you too
The following I consider immediately unattractive: 1. Overweight or less than 5'0" in height. 2. Physical deformity or disability. 3. Smoking, drinking, or the use of drugs. 4. Aggressive, abusive, or controlling behaviour or personality, including the use of profanity. 5. Homosexual or criminal tendencies or choice of friends or close associates. 6. Any racist or feminist mindset including the support of abortion. 7. Tattoos and body piercings. 8. Thongs or any such "underwear" or the wearing in public of overly revealing clothes. 9. Anyone not a fully heterosexual, natural born adult female. 10. Any gold-digger or high-maintenance person. 11. Anyone who would keep secrets and not reveal same until after the point of no return. 12. Anyone owning deadly weapons or dangerous animals as pets.
Physical features : Red hair, freckles, tiny lips, fake tan, curly hair, skinny fat body, body that isn't muscular.
Personality traits : Guys that aren't jealous neither possessive, liberal (guys that aren't traditional), boring guys (always text the same things, have no conversation, etc...), victim mentality (they give me a headache), coward / pushover (those that say nothing when someone insult them or hit them and just run away), guys that aren't loyal, liar, those that don't put me as their priority (I know lots aren't really personality traits but I don't really know how to explain in another way ><) And the worst of all are traitor (like those in school if they see you doing something "illegal" would say it to the teacher, I don't know how is it said in English. In my country those people get their head break, everyone hate those here).
Dress styles : Tight clothe, pants that show the ankles, ripped jeans, long shirt, short shorts, pink clothes
Lmao yes they dont need to wear high water pants lol or pink clothes and im not a fan of redhair for the sake of my kid being mixed with redhair which isn't that appealing when theyre half black but i have seen some sexy redhead men tho
1. Laziness, I'm sorry but I'm really not the type to lie in bed all day and play on my phone, I like to get things done. I also think it's super hot when a man is ambitious 2. Poor attitude, such as being ungrateful towards others, chewing with mouth open etc 3. Poor hygiene, you better be showering every day and brushing teeth well. 4. Poor physical fitness, I see exercising and eating well as a form of self respect, you are prolonging your life and I don't think I could be with someone who had very unhealthy habits. 5. Is shy, sorry shy guys, I like you, but I'm weak for male confidence 6. Is either a big spender (racks up debt) or a complete scrooge
OMG i hate when they chew with their mouth open. I think i like shy guys as long as i can bring them out their shell in less than a month. I haaaate big spenders who suck with money management
I don't really think about what I don't like... but I'll give this a go.
Physically I need to be attracted to them, but I like a wide range of people so it's person to personthan individual traits. I tend to like leaner guys, but a little tummy is nice to cuddle with. So I guess I don't like it if they are too fat, but the important thing is that they are taking care of themselves. If he is healthy, but has a natural bit of pudge I'm fine is what I am trying to say. I like a guy who looks like he has life in his eyes, so no dull eyes. I'm not a big fan of beards, but if they can pull it off that's cool. The big thing is they need to have good hygiene, if their breathe smells bad I won't kiss them. They NEED to brush their teeth, shower, and take care of their appearance at least most of the time. As for girls. I love short messy hair on both, but especially on girls it is adorable. I guess the same things that I said for guys mostly also applies for girls. I don't like it when gurls wear LOTS of makeup like all the time.
For personality I just want us to get along. I believe in soulmates. I believe there are certain people in the world that you just click with, that just get your more than most people. I don't believe you are necessarily romantic with them, but they exist. The person I marry needs to be one of my soulmates. Other than that I would heavily perfer if they were also vegatarian, but not too vegatarian. It is a very casual thing for me, I just don't eat meat and try to buy from ethical sources. I want someone who cares, but isn't going to get on my case about every little thing. I'd perfer if they didn't smoke or do a lot of drugs.
As for style I don't really care. Suits are hot, men or women. I don't tend to be into super girly girls, so take that as you will. As long as they always dress appropriately is the big thing, I don't want to be embarrassed by them wearing sneakers to a funeral. Also no fuckbou wear. That includes the hair and the outfits, and especially those dumb hat.
Physical features: Bad haircuts (long hair, shaved/buzzcut, Mohawk, that hideous trendy one that’s poofy and curly on top and short on the sides, etc), tattoos, super buff, fat, mustache, long beard, hooked nose, high or breathy voice, and excessively hairy Personality: Religious, loud/talks too much, uncultured, wants a traditional family/lifestyle, uses drugs recreationally, drinks too much, goes out too much, reckless, not politically conscious, doesn’t like travel, pushy when it comes to sex, mama’s boy/too attached to his family, has kids, socially conservative, doesn’t like/tolerate animals, litters, and bad taste (in clothes, home decor, food, cars, etc) Dress Style: athleisure, chunky sneakers, skinny jeans, neon anything, piercings, jewelry, revealing clothes, Crocs, combat boots, sandals, sweatshirts too often (especially with a logo, like Supreme or Gucci), hats, tight clothes, baggy clothes, leather anything besides belts and shoes, and clothes with purposeful distressing or holes
For your physical features, i agree all are a mess except buzzcut/shaved. Thats like the only style i prefer on a guy. The too attached to the family type drive me crazy. I dont like combat boots either
Oh yea we def got a different type when it comes to guys haha. I haaaaate oxfords so much lol. I dont even want a dude to wear those to the wedding haha. But i do like guys in ralph lauren polos with khakis
Recently in another GAG article ("The Hot Guy Face"), a girl commented she didn't find a picture of an "attractive" guy appealing because he looked gay to her. That got backlash. I wouldn't have used the word "gay" in commenting, but I agree there are traditionally masculine looks that differ from "pretty" that I and a lot of other girls I've heard from find attractive. Pretty reminds me of other girls and I'm not into other girls that way.
This is a really explosive topic in the PC age. But I prefer very masculine, even bordering on what some would call "ugly" over "pretty" features. But I think every guy should feel entitled to be whoever HE wants to be, regardless what some girls find appealing.
Physical features that I find unattractive in guys:
- Blonde hair - Blue eyes - Short, cropped or no hair - Shorter than like 5'5, taller than like 6'1 - Significantly underweight or significantly overweight - Scruffy or patchy beards - Really short nails
Personality traits or lifestyle choices that I find unattractive in guys:
- Someone who's rude to others, usually if they're rude to people like waiters, that's a big tip off that this person is a douche - Someone religious - Someone impatient - Someone who doesn't want to travel or move away - Someone unambitious - Someone who doesn't want children and pets - Someone who smokes - Someone who wears tracksuits, trainers, lots of jewellery, has a chavvy/"gangsta" appearance
I don't like hate blond hair and blue eyes but like it's my least favourite hair colour, y'know? It's probably cause I myself have blonde hair and blue eyes and I like the contrast between me and my partner with his dark hair and dark eyes, I think that colouring is so pretty <3
Mine make me feel like a terrible person, for some reason I simply do not like glasses almost to the point were it doesn't matter how attractive they are without them. I'm very particular about noses, size doesn't matter that much it's more to do with the shape and whether they suit it. Again massively hypocritical considering I have the worst nose and hate it. I don't like forehead wrinkles and to a lesser extent specific hairstyles. Personality wise i'm more flexible although beyond not liking people who simply aren't nice, I also don't like someone who isn't at least somewhat intelligent. Dress style, i'm not keen on people who always look frumpy or like they're always ready to be at the gym but never actually go.
Yea i hate wearing glasses but i do. And yea im really picky about the shape of the nose yet i also dont like my nose at times haha. Ong forehead wrinkles bother me so much. Looks like a bulldog bruh. And lmao u mean the yoga tights girls
here are some personality traits & dress styles that i would not find attractive in my ideal partner
dress styles shirts or pants that show off her ass or tits in bedroom or just chilling at home is fine
tattoos that are not tasteful for example a tramp stamp or a pot plant tattoo or any face tattoos
too many piercings
personality if she can't joke around a lot and is too serious all the time if she is sweet outside but turns into a bitch at home if she is attention-seeking if she is bossy or superficial
Not to be to picky my deal breakers are as follows 1st and foremost hygiene is a big issue. I don't want no smelly person, they need to look somewhat neat and smell nice. I am pretty much middle road when it comes to looks. An average to slim person, not fat or obese or thin as a rail, a woman should have curves, no body builders, a womans muscles should not look like a man's. She should be real and honest not fake, not too loud or quiet. As far a physical appearance its about the whloe package, some physical imperfections on the right person in the right combination is beautiful. The rest is her demeanor and personality should be attractive to me because that's what counts, after all its me who has to like her. It doesn't matter what everyone else thinks... 😁
- Tattoos/Piercings - Alcoholic/Drug user - Doesn’t dress presentably - “Dad bod”/unfit - Too soft hands (I like at least a little bit of roughness when my man touches me. It’s also masculine and usually shows that he’s a hard worker.) - Dark skin tone
I agree with all except dressing presentably and skin tone. I dont like suit/tie. I think dark skinned men like Idris Elbra look good. But i do prefer the caramel skintone like Boris Kodjoe.
By presentably I don’t mean wear a suit or tux everywhere (but yes when needed), but I mainly mean don’t wear a t-shirt with your pants on your knees and crazy things like that. At least wear something like an Oxford or polo shirt maybe, with maybe something like chinos. Maybe a blazer or sports coat.
The only thing I would not like her to do is to dress up like an old lady... baggy pants and things like that are also not my thing. She's a girl, not a clown :o But apart from that she has to wear what she likes. And maybe occasionally surprise me with what I like :D
Short hair is not as attractive but hair pulled up into an updo or bun is ok. Some clothes patterns look unattractive, and robes. There is also something about girls that are know it alls or girls that are too closed up, I like a girl that is open and willing and positive
Physical features = if he's like too heavy/chubby, unattractive nose, too big of lips, if he's balding or something. Personality Traits = Cocky, arrogant, disloyal, know-it-all, tough headed, unsympathetic, just everything that's not nice. Dress styles = like not trendy, not up to date, emo style (those things), lazy or like he looks unhygienic.
I'm not usually picky. But if i was then my type of partner shouldn't have these qualities She shouldn't be narrow minded first of all.. Shouldn't be self obsessed.. Shouldn't be taller than 5'8".. Her dressing style should not be too revealing (unless we're alone).. She shouldn't be all skinny (mainly because I'm exactly that 😂).. She should not be the always serious type..
1. Tattoos or piercings, too trashy 2. overly big boobs, just doesn't look good 3. overly short hair, long hair is beautiful 4. narrow hips, hourglass and pear shaped bodies please 5. isn't any shorter than 5'5, I don't like major height differences 6. is unhygienic, speaks for itself 7. wants children, I don't want any myself 8. is a feminist or shows signs of misandry 9. low sex drive 10. is overly religious or atheistic 11. has degrading and harmful fetishes or fantasies 12. is polyamorous
Ant extreme body modification. Minor plastic surgeries included.
Full or partial Head shave for aestheticism.
Body positivity within limits. I would want her to be loving and confident in her body around me. But I definitely don't want someone who post their semi nudes on social media in the name of body positivity.
I have a beer belly🙁 but its cause I've been a bit lazy lately. Gotta start working out more! I can be blunt I say what needs to be heard, but I know how to do it without belittling people - I also know how to belittle people as well. How do you feel about crocs?
Beer belly is okay as long as theyre working on it. I don't know why i always imagined you to be tall and lanky tho haha. And if you're blunt but in a nice way then thats better. I listed above that i dont like crocs
lol so you thought i wouldn't have a beard, wouldn't have though i was Asian, and now you know i have a gut and not tall and lanky. hahaa for some reason it seems like you may have been romanticizing me a bit haha
Lmao no i didn't say that 🙈 but whenever i chat with people for a while i imagine (not fantasize) what they look like. I mean i figured you were white or like japanese Asian but yea the beard is the last thing i expected
Physical features: any implants or alterations from they're natural breasts, lips or overall face. Personality traits: Inflated ego and self worth, any manipulate behaviour No dress style, wear what you want, or nothing at all during the summer, I'm a bit of a nudist with the girls I date 🤷🏽♂️🏞️
I love nice long hair. Preferably blond wit highlights... man buns literally kill me. I find rings, necklaces or any kind of jewelry really hot. If they are bi or pan, big turnon. Baggy shirts and hoddies are cool. Nail polish in general too. I guess I just like open/weird people who like fantasy and binge tv shows/movies.
Idk!! Because, it's not in me to judge someone like that. I get judge by how I, look all the time. Being a black chef, who play's metal bass. Who is tatted all over and multiple piercings. Yes, I cover up for interviews. Or, when I go to my job to eat. But, can't say what the other person should ot should not wear. Lol
Reading the various answers to this Q, pretty much explains why so many people are single or can't find someone and unhappy. Not that I don't have my own preferences; I do. But anyone who is super picky; can't communicate or compromise is surely lost. Very discouraging.
Not too picky with looks, but it does matter. Sorry, but Im not into girls that are just plain obese, or look like a crackhead or something. In personality, if you're a moron instant turnoff. Sports chicks, turnoff. Snotty judgmental chicks, extra turnoff. Ghetto gangster wannabe chicks, turnoff, but Id still fuck them. If you're obsessed with something Im not into, like concerts or partying, turnoff. If you're controlling and want to change my personality, turnoff. That just about covers it.
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